I mean it's not but I will say Instagram literally got me out of my dry spell but it was random as f*** a attractive girl that follows me literally just asked me out. I probably have a better chance of getting struck by lightning.
I refuse to make my social media "presentable" though. That doesn't allign with my relaxed lifestyle.

No s***

Validation app for women

I think it more so depends on the guy and how they approach it and present themselves. I follow a dating coach on IG who is a woman and she just posted something the other day about utilizing IG for dating

of course it depends on how it’s done, but getting a random DM from a random guy isnt usually met with positive reactions

dating coaches will give you advice on what to do in every situation ever, doesn’t meant all of them are good

OP is right

They lyin they ass off

lol

Bro said madam

There must be an age difference or something because it does work

what has your experience been I’m curious now — i’m in college and i’m 21

Honestly, yeah, and its why I don't really get that concept

The concept of an "ick" does get canceled out when it is someone you really do like and would tolerate from them, either for a transactional reason (sugar daddies/mommies/sex work) or real enjoyment with no strings attached, even guys go through this stuff with women/other men

I think it really comes down to the individual and what you can tolerate from them

Someone who you don't like can come off as weird, while someone you do like can come off as endearing

correct, if it was on an app where people were seeking things.

instagram is just where women go to show off their lives — not find hookups. That’s what tinder is for.

If a girl is in your area and is wanting to find someone to HU with, they’ll be on actual dating apps and you can find them there

but like I said before, some women like the attention they get, and some may want to meet up/HU, the latter has just been very rare in my experience — they’ll entertain it and f*** around, but doesn’t end up going anywhere

The trick is replying to stories. There's a bit more nuance to it all but yes i've successfully pulled off IG

you say this like it’s a groundbreaking thing but a girl’s story will have multiple likes — guys see it as making themselves known but it becomes a weird “fan” situation and If you pulled through IG, I’m happy for you, it’s just not reflective from my experience being a woman and knowing women

Again, I do think that is a question that is mainly determined by the individual person and not a homogenous experience for everyone

I think the app can fulfill both purposes for people, and it does.

I do think that social media is inherently an alienating concept, as it eliminates real human interaction when meeting people, and I do think its hegemony over that type of interaction has made people more socially anxious and insular over time, I do think dating apps and social media used for that purpose does take away the "real experience" when it comes to hitting it off/vibing with someone for the first time, and it turns that into a bare minimum transaction in which we base each others opinions on each other off very little besides the surface

I've known people who have found great long-term relationships off these various platforms, but it does seem kinda rare to really come to something besides a date or two or just hookups, nothing substantial and engaging for the long-term

OP suggested using IG as a dating app, and I said the vast majority of women that I know don’t see it that way. That’s all. Obviously there are exceptions and people who don’t think that way

And you’re right — social media has changed how we interact, and I personally see it negatively, but for people who are able to do and say things online and not IRL, I guess it’s been helpful. But that doesn’t change that online relationships translate very differently IRL

Same, I haven’t seen many people develop long-lasting and meaningful relationships through apps like IG

i must've won the f*** a fan contest

Congrats :)

No wonder every dating app thing kinda ends within the "talking stage", because there's effectively nothing, no physical precense, nothing to break the waters and become really comfortable, and both parties become disengaged with each other, unless you link up really early, but that can be hard to setup because there is no previous commitment so the person could just dub you with no f***s given, you are just some code in an app, not a person with a real physical presence that had a moment with somebody new, and who decided to keep it going

alright now THIS is crazy

For sure — and the fact that a lot of the time, when you meet IRL, the vibes aren’t at all the same and it just kinda becomes awkward

I feel like the dopamine hit of the initial “getting them” experience ends and people get bored/realize that isn’t what they’re looking for

Microsoft Teams can be a dating app if u put ur mind to it