Dec 1, 2020·1 reply
Vincent AdultmanAs you're someone whos coming out of being diagnosed w a disorder and working against it I don't think working towards the goals you see her accomplishing is a bad thing at all, but going as far as completely modeling your identity on her may be too much
But here's the thing. I already acted like she did but I shut myself off because I got bullied out of being myself.
She's like a version of me without all the trauma and anger.
You're right I shouldn't be her to a 1:1 degree but she's shown me a lot about how there was nothing wrong with who I was.
- Dec 1, 2020·1 replySecretGarden
But here's the thing. I already acted like she did but I shut myself off because I got bullied out of being myself.
She's like a version of me without all the trauma and anger.
You're right I shouldn't be her to a 1:1 degree but she's shown me a lot about how there was nothing wrong with who I was.
Then I don't see any issue coming to terms with being more like her, if that's actually what you want and is actually who you are
Do you really feel that's "how you used to be" and what you want to be in the future?
- Dec 1, 2020·1 replyVincent Adultman
Then I don't see any issue coming to terms with being more like her, if that's actually what you want and is actually who you are
Do you really feel that's "how you used to be" and what you want to be in the future?
Ever since I met her I've felt happier with myself than I have in 9 years so I really think so.
- Dec 1, 2020SecretGarden
Ever since I met her I've felt happier with myself than I have in 9 years so I really think so.
Then hell yeah dude that's what it's all about. Knock yourself out and experiment with your personality
What's the harm in trying to be better and happier?
- Dec 1, 2020·1 reply
that's called stealing swag op. that's never ok to do. if someone did that to u it would be unpleasant
- Dec 1, 2020·2 repliesLcve
that's called stealing swag op. that's never ok to do. if someone did that to u it would be unpleasant
I want to be someone's hero one day dude. I want to be a published author and I want some kid to tell me he was at his lowest and my stories motivated him to keep living and get himself together.
That's what I write for tbh.
Dec 1, 2020·1 replySecretGardenI love myself. I just see everything I am trying to be in her and I can't help but follow her lead while I still have mt own interests.
For example I'm a rapper and she does rock music. She has 100k followers on Spotify. Different styles but she's still so cool.
That’s fine, as long as it doesn’t turn into anything unhealthy
- Dec 1, 2020Sunny Sun
That’s fine, as long as it doesn’t turn into anything unhealthy
I won't wind up like Patrick on that one episode where he worked at the Krusty Krab don't worry
Dec 1, 2020Crine
- Dec 1, 2020SecretGarden
I want to be someone's hero one day dude. I want to be a published author and I want some kid to tell me he was at his lowest and my stories motivated him to keep living and get himself together.
That's what I write for tbh.
you wanna be drake too?!
- Dec 1, 2020The Viper
Op is Shang tsung
Dec 1, 2020No it’s fine
Dec 1, 2020SecretGardenI met this trans lady recently who's 30 something and she's basically everything I want to be. A published author, a musician, she loves video games and internet culture, she has an active s***life, and she cooks her own meals.
Everything about her is perfect. She's like me without the trauma and BPD. She's also exactly 10 years older than me.
I've found myself copying a lot from her lately. The gender ambiguous way she dresses, the dry sense of humor I already had x 100, the they/them pronouns. All of that.
I don't mean to rip from her so much but I can't help because she's EVERYTHING I want to be in 10 years. Is that weird?
people often find rolemodels in life op, but everyone has their own challenges to deal with. I forgot who said this, but in one of my gender theory classes my teacher gave out the quote, "heterosexual love is wanting to own someone, while homosexual love is wanting to be someone." i think that applies here. good luck tho this s*** is weird for everybody
Dec 1, 2020·1 replySecretGardenThat's the thing. She probably wasn't. She's the peak of everything I hope to achieve.
The way you’re saying this is kinda weird, but it’s normal to see good things in others that you want to cultivate for yourself. See her as motivation, but don’t bite.
Also, if you didn’t dress like her before anyway don’t even begin biting like that. Sure fire way to creep someone out.
- Dec 1, 2020dogfart
i have the same fade as drake facial hair lined up like drake i strated lifting weights when i seen the drizzler start hitting the gym whatever namebrand drake namedrops i cop , e x p e d i t i o u s l y. i even wear my ovo socks when im f***ing my b****
I screenshotted tf out of that
Dec 1, 2020so much negativity in here, I feel you OP, but just be careful you don't get lost trying to emulate this person, take what you want from them and apply it to yourself, don't lose yourself
- Dec 1, 2020SecretGarden
I want to be someone's hero one day dude. I want to be a published author and I want some kid to tell me he was at his lowest and my stories motivated him to keep living and get himself together.
That's what I write for tbh.
You are perfectly capable, you're just looking for a shortcut to get there so you're copying someone who has reached it already, and you're hoping by copying someone else you will reach that trajectory without putting in all the work that they did
- Dec 1, 2020
^off the f***ing dome
/thread - Dec 1, 2020LandoTHELOST
The way you’re saying this is kinda weird, but it’s normal to see good things in others that you want to cultivate for yourself. See her as motivation, but don’t bite.
Also, if you didn’t dress like her before anyway don’t even begin biting like that. Sure fire way to creep someone out.
i always wanted to dress like her but i was too afraid to do it again, she noticed it too but has noticed it as a positive change. I feel happy with how I dress now.
- Dec 21, 2020
So yeah, she's reminded me that there's a lot to love about myself and I've felt happier and happier since I met her.
The void in my heart that I was trying to fill with hookups is going away and I'm even looking into actual relationships. I'm so grateful to have met her.