Fargo

3y

Me and the Girl I was planning on marrying broke up today. It’s not because of us more so her father saying that since we aren’t part of the same ethic group and he threatened to kill her if she ever tried marrying a man of a different ethnicity. I spoke to him about it and he said he actually likes me a lot but thinks it’s wrong for me to marry her because I’m a not from their country. I’m genuinely devastated because at first he didn’t care that I wasn’t part of their ethnic group then suddenly changed his mind. If anybody has ever been through something like this please give me some advice.

Nine Arts Dragon

3y

What ethnic group if you don’t mind me asking? I think the rest of the family/environment around him is affecting his decision. He might like you but older generation immigrants also have to be a part of the immigrant environment around them. Might be worried about what his peers think ( which are probably as old if not older than him )

Honor is an important thing in these cultures, but you could try to change his mindset on the matter, he might change his decision?

Fargo

3y

My mom is a black Libyan and my father is Palestinian. The girl is Chechen.

voodoo

4y

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Introductory books:
The Qur'an: Translated by M. A. S. Abdel Haleem
Muhammad by Martin Lings
The Autobiography of Malcolm X by Malcolm X and Alex Haley
The Road to Mecca by Muhammad Asad
Purification of the Heart by Hamza Yusuf
Lost Islamic History by Firas Alkhateeb
Misquoting Muhammad by Jonathan A.C Brown
Islam and the Destiny of Man by Gai Eaton

Fargo

3y

Me and the Girl I was planning on marrying broke up today. It’s not because of us more so her father saying that since we aren’t part of the same ethic group and he threatened to kill her if she ever tried marrying a man of a different ethnicity. I spoke to him about it and he said he actually likes me a lot but thinks it’s wrong for me to marry her because I’m a not from their country. I’m genuinely devastated because at first he didn’t care that I wasn’t part of their ethnic group then suddenly changed his mind. If anybody has ever been through something like this please give me some advice.

EMY

3y

nationalism and tribalism is a disease

ALPHABEAR

3y

They’re both VERY un-Islamic concepts, no doubt. If two Muslims decide they want to marry each other, literally nothing in accordance with our faith can stop them.

I had a Christian gf. Wonderful, love of my life tbh. She was studying Islam and wanted to learn more about it as we were getting serious about marriage. I thought it was all good till she hit me with the “Wait, so my kids won’t know what it’s like to sit around a Christmas tree?”

I probably offered one or two rebuttals around Eid and our own festivities, but she was hurt in her eyes I could tell. I thought, who am I to take that from her? Everyone has a right to raise the kids they wish.

It soured, & we broke up - but we still unfortunately love each other lol. It’s been 4 years since we broke up, but we’ll still occasionally do cringe s*** like, view each other’s stories (even though we don’t follow each other), msg & delete like at, 3am in the morning. Etc

EMY

3y

I know it’s painful but I believe you did the right thing brother. I know so many kids with one Muslim and one Christian parent, who just end up atheist or non religious because they find themselves “caught in the middle.”

Was the Christmas tree the only thing that prevented her from converting?

ALPHABEAR

3y

Ya, she wasn’t racist, nor was her family tbh. Our families all kinda already met, my parents liked her, her parents liked me.

It was a lack of communication. Her family was under the impression I’d become Christian, my family was thinking she’d become Muslim.

She told me she’d convert to Islam, but when it came down to studying it + her family realizing she was gonna convert (and not me). So at that time, her fam prolly hit her with the “holy s***, are you SURE??”. Which probably got her thinking.

No drinking + no Christmas is a huge change, it’s the equivalent of me STARTING to drink + no Eid. I could NEVER agree to those terms, so I was wrong to assume she could.

Creasy

3y

giving up on religion entirely

voodoo

3y

why?

be2sane

3y

This begs the question, were the Christians of back in the day this lenient on drinking alcohol and celebrating pagan holidays or was it actually more similar to Islam? 🤔

Creasy

3y

giving up on religion entirely

Kako

3y

anyone here remember umarov from ktt1? i remember him. what happened to him? man lowkey seemed like an ISIS member

Kako

3y

anyone here remember umarov from ktt1? i remember him. what happened to him? man lowkey seemed like an ISIS member

Creasy

3y

not enough self control, eagerness and discipline to abide by a righteous lifestyle
with no motivation to change any of that

it jus is what it is at this point

Fargo

3y

Me and the Girl I was planning on marrying broke up today. It’s not because of us more so her father saying that since we aren’t part of the same ethic group and he threatened to kill her if she ever tried marrying a man of a different ethnicity. I spoke to him about it and he said he actually likes me a lot but thinks it’s wrong for me to marry her because I’m a not from their country. I’m genuinely devastated because at first he didn’t care that I wasn’t part of their ethnic group then suddenly changed his mind. If anybody has ever been through something like this please give me some advice.