Heed that warning young Padawan

essentially if you move into her space, she has her way of living already established and ANYTHING you do in there (moving your own items in, how clean you are etc.) will f*** up the flow she's already used to leading to arguments

a. have her move into your place since guys don't care as much about little s*** like where a couch is placed
b. get a brand new place for the both of you and have start with a clean slate

lol its always gonna be HER place not yours

doesnt make sense to play house and expect eachother to fulfill responsiblities that you normally would in a marriage without putting a ring on it but thats just my opinion

also dating eachother for a year is way too short to just move in

Simply because it’s her place

Things going left ain’t the issue that’s whatever

My only worry is it’s her place and you moving in now, you will always be seen as a guest somewhat since you moved into her environment

If you really wanna move in together pose the idea of looking for a place together

whole lotta outdated misogynistic ideas being spouted off in here

Basically said the same s*** I said

This man gets it OP

Nothing is yours. You'll have no say on the place in terms of any furniture, decorations etc. Most of your stuff won't make it to her place and you'll have to find a place to store it.

If things change on a dime, it will be very easy to kick you out

literally nothing in this thread was misogynistic

Of course this guy says its misogynistic lmao its the same thing every time

Get a load of this guy

never

moving in with one's S/O is a interesting discussion topic in general. seems like everyone goes about it a bit differently

idrk how else to frame the whole "don't move into her space" angle other than it being some oldschool macho nonsense.

did u read my second response?

live by yourself first then get a place together but always have your own seperate space you can retreat to at any time u dont wanna get locked into a contract/mortgage still living with her you break up but under the same roof she getting backshots u hearing the thunderclaps while not getting any being downbad then moving out n loosing rent £

honestly lock it in and get a 5 year mortgage term to really test this relationship out

Think I’ll stick with option B as that seems more reasonable and such. Moving in together to a completely new place sounds much better anyway. Even my mom always preaches about how moving in with landlords only leads to issues down the road.

yeah that just laid it on even more thick "gotta remain in control" like that's just a red flag and a half to me. something my boomer ass dad would say

and then talkin abt how men don't be particular about their spaces like women do? again that's just an outdated generalization that don't really have a leg to stand on to me

we clearly comin at this from very different positions but im glad we just talking about it. op gonna learn a lot and be able to make a more informed decision

gotta start sleeping with other ting then when she complains be like 'well u said i disturb u while i sleep so i hooked up with thottianna she never complains about my sleeping etiquette'

brand new place would be dope but the market kinda crazy right now

make sure you live alone for a few years before doing that

trust me

agreed
i'm just speaking from oldhead experience and going through it myself g