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  • Jul 5, 2020
    imShy

    Many many times

    pm the sextape

  • Jul 5, 2020
    imShy

    It’s a girl

    b****es aint s*** on god!!

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    Nozuka

    Who? Why? How?

    Cutting my ex off. That two and a half year relationship was my first and really f***ed be off.

    She has BPD, you guys probably don’t know much about it, but it’s a sad and complicated mental disorder. She’s actually an angel at heart but her subconscious makes her self sabotage almost everything.

    People with BPD are never not in relationship because they can’t stand to be alone. So when our relationship ended it wasn’t really a breakup but a straight up replacement, and I was left to deal with that fact.

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    Sounds a lot like my ex the whole gaslighting, manipulating, and emotional unstableness. Good for you though @op I didn’t have the balls to do it back then and I ended up getting cheated on which left me with no choice but to tell her off

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    why is she toxic

  • Jul 5, 2020
    imShy

    It’s a girl

    flex thread

    OP know that we all virgins and losers on KTT and he just wants to show off

  • Jul 5, 2020
    ROVO

    Can you put in a good word for me? I know she’s gonna be in the mood for a rebound

    She’s in a relationship

  • Jul 5, 2020

    Today’s when I drive to go see her. It’s her birthday week, a while ago I bought her a present and I’m just going on that.

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    CLBparadise

    Sounds a lot like my ex the whole gaslighting, manipulating, and emotional unstableness. Good for you though @op I didn’t have the balls to do it back then and I ended up getting cheated on which left me with no choice but to tell her off

    I was cheated on multiple times bro. That whole relationship has really been this most traumatic thing in my life

  • Jul 5, 2020
    BVL

    why is she toxic

    See my post above

  • Jul 5, 2020

    She not toxic you toxic

  • Jul 5, 2020

    good luck, it's for the better

  • always cut off your ex’s instantly learn that lesson now

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    imShy

    Gas lighting, not being accountable, very unstable emotionally, the list goes on I can’t even begin to tell you

    Oh so you’re the guy f***in w my ex?

  • Jul 5, 2020
    Smoofer

    Oh so you’re the guy f***in w my ex?

    you hate to see it

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    imShy

    Cutting my ex off. That two and a half year relationship was my first and really f***ed be off.

    She has BPD, you guys probably don’t know much about it, but it’s a sad and complicated mental disorder. She’s actually an angel at heart but her subconscious makes her self sabotage almost everything.

    People with BPD are never not in relationship because they can’t stand to be alone. So when our relationship ended it wasn’t really a breakup but a straight up replacement, and I was left to deal with that fact.

    I have bpd too. Fear of abandonment is a very real thing I struggle with...I’ve probably spent 4-5 months out of the last 5 years being single. I realized I was seeking out partners to feel better about myself.

    Hope you do what’s best for you and find the closure you’re looking for.

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    DevilOrAngelFM

    I have bpd too. Fear of abandonment is a very real thing I struggle with...I’ve probably spent 4-5 months out of the last 5 years being single. I realized I was seeking out partners to feel better about myself.

    Hope you do what’s best for you and find the closure you’re looking for.

    She really tries her best to better herself she really does. But there's things I see from other pwBPD like you that I don't see from her.

    She is always in complete denial about things whn it comes to her partners.

    When I was discarded and she started seeing this new guy I went up to her saying "you know this is the exact same thing that happened last time right? the only reasons you're attaching yourself to him is because you think his attention has been saving you and you attach yourself to the attention"

    she goes, "no this is different. I know him (literally met him beginning of last semester as a "friend"). things are different"..When literally it's EXACTLY like last time and it's just another classic idealization.

    She's really doomed man and I tried I really tried but I can't be in her life anymore.

    The sad part is that I know since she's idealizing this new guy, she won't really be able to feel the full impact of the loss. Because I've easily been the best and most consistent friend in her life. When the infatuation ends and she does realize everything she'll truly be lost but I won't be there anymore.

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    DevilOrAngelFM

    I have bpd too. Fear of abandonment is a very real thing I struggle with...I’ve probably spent 4-5 months out of the last 5 years being single. I realized I was seeking out partners to feel better about myself.

    Hope you do what’s best for you and find the closure you’re looking for.

    btw your disorder to username ratio is so accurate and f***ing hilarious

  • Jul 5, 2020

    Pics

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    imShy

    She really tries her best to better herself she really does. But there's things I see from other pwBPD like you that I don't see from her.

    She is always in complete denial about things whn it comes to her partners.

    When I was discarded and she started seeing this new guy I went up to her saying "you know this is the exact same thing that happened last time right? the only reasons you're attaching yourself to him is because you think his attention has been saving you and you attach yourself to the attention"

    she goes, "no this is different. I know him (literally met him beginning of last semester as a "friend"). things are different"..When literally it's EXACTLY like last time and it's just another classic idealization.

    She's really doomed man and I tried I really tried but I can't be in her life anymore.

    The sad part is that I know since she's idealizing this new guy, she won't really be able to feel the full impact of the loss. Because I've easily been the best and most consistent friend in her life. When the infatuation ends and she does realize everything she'll truly be lost but I won't be there anymore.

    So in 2 months when her new relationship goes to s*** and she realizes you were the best person to her, what then? If she tries to come back to you and be better, apologizing for everything you listed, do you really say no?

  • imShy

    She really tries her best to better herself she really does. But there's things I see from other pwBPD like you that I don't see from her.

    She is always in complete denial about things whn it comes to her partners.

    When I was discarded and she started seeing this new guy I went up to her saying "you know this is the exact same thing that happened last time right? the only reasons you're attaching yourself to him is because you think his attention has been saving you and you attach yourself to the attention"

    she goes, "no this is different. I know him (literally met him beginning of last semester as a "friend"). things are different"..When literally it's EXACTLY like last time and it's just another classic idealization.

    She's really doomed man and I tried I really tried but I can't be in her life anymore.

    The sad part is that I know since she's idealizing this new guy, she won't really be able to feel the full impact of the loss. Because I've easily been the best and most consistent friend in her life. When the infatuation ends and she does realize everything she'll truly be lost but I won't be there anymore.

    Yeah I have a “high functioning” version so I’m able to be self aware of my actions and how it effects me and others thankfully. Doesn’t mean I’ve always had that ability, it definitely came with maturing as a person and it seems like she has a lot of maturing to do.

    You know the saying you can lead a horse to water but can’t force it to drink...you really can’t lose yourself to try and save someone else no matter how much you care for them. And it seems like you’ve reached your breaking point. And I don’t blame you

  • imShy

    btw your disorder to username ratio is so accurate and f***ing hilarious

    Lol I couldn’t think of something clever when I signed up so I said f*** it might as well make it something that relates to me

  • Jul 5, 2020
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    imShy

    I was cheated on multiple times bro. That whole relationship has really been this most traumatic thing in my life

    What you allow will continue to happen till the end of time

    People only respect people that respect themselves

  • Jul 5, 2020
    frank 2022

    So in 2 months when her new relationship goes to s*** and she realizes you were the best person to her, what then? If she tries to come back to you and be better, apologizing for everything you listed, do you really say no?

    I’ve been trying for 3 years.I can’t be in her life anymore.

    The scenario you point out WILL 100% percent happen. Her feelings for this new guy are all temporary.

    She’ll hate herself for a long time. I’m actually really afraid of what could happen but that’s not my responsibility anymore.

  • Jul 5, 2020
    GoodFella

    What you allow will continue to happen till the end of time

    People only respect people that respect themselves

    While this is true, logic like this doesn’t apply to people with personality disorders most of time.

    I respect the hell out of myself. For them they’ll get what they want regardless.