OPJul 5, 2020·2 replies
frank 2022So in 2 months when her new relationship goes to s*** and she realizes you were the best person to her, what then? If she tries to come back to you and be better, apologizing for everything you listed, do you really say no?
Everything’s just been a cycle. I can’t tell you how many times she’s apologized bro to have the exact same things happen literally months afterwords.
Sad to say but her words rarely ever match her actions
- Jul 5, 2020·1 replyimShy
Everything’s just been a cycle. I can’t tell you how many times she’s apologized bro to have the exact same things happen literally months afterwords.
Sad to say but her words rarely ever match her actions
how old is she
- OPJul 5, 2020·1 replyYou Disappoint Me
how old is she
20
- Jul 5, 2020·1 replyimShy
Everything’s just been a cycle. I can’t tell you how many times she’s apologized bro to have the exact same things happen literally months afterwords.
Sad to say but her words rarely ever match her actions
Hm. How long was your relationship with her? Are you the main person she continually comes back to?
I think it’s probably good for you to cut her off, but there are certain situations where I would say otherwise. I just need a little more context
- Jul 5, 2020·1 replyimShy
She really tries her best to better herself she really does. But there's things I see from other pwBPD like you that I don't see from her.
She is always in complete denial about things whn it comes to her partners.
When I was discarded and she started seeing this new guy I went up to her saying "you know this is the exact same thing that happened last time right? the only reasons you're attaching yourself to him is because you think his attention has been saving you and you attach yourself to the attention"
she goes, "no this is different. I know him (literally met him beginning of last semester as a "friend"). things are different"..When literally it's EXACTLY like last time and it's just another classic idealization.
She's really doomed man and I tried I really tried but I can't be in her life anymore.
The sad part is that I know since she's idealizing this new guy, she won't really be able to feel the full impact of the loss. Because I've easily been the best and most consistent friend in her life. When the infatuation ends and she does realize everything she'll truly be lost but I won't be there anymore.
What makes you think she will ever realize any of that
She's most likely going to bounce from guy to guy until landing on one that will deal with all that s*** and is compatible with her toxic traits to the point she'll never have to realize anything ur saying - Jul 5, 2020imShy
20
WOAT age for women
- OPJul 5, 2020·2 repliesfrank 2022
Hm. How long was your relationship with her? Are you the main person she continually comes back to?
I think it’s probably good for you to cut her off, but there are certain situations where I would say otherwise. I just need a little more context
Yes, she always comes back to me. she’s impulsive and has cheated many times. I’m extremely empathetic but do realize I should not have forgiven her as many times as I did.
Not Only that but she would manipulate me into staying with her. There were many times were I thought if I leave this room right now I’m pretty sure she’ll end up in the hospital by the time I get back. It was my first real relationship I don’t know how to handle that kind of responsibility.
Anywho, she has a lot of childhood trauma obviously and when we started dating she hadn’t began the path to recovery. She had been in therapy and she had made lots of progress up to that point. But her family and therapist thought she was good because at face value she looked like she had everything under control. So she herself started being ignorant to how messed up she actually was.
Many times she’s told me she’s ruined me and that she’s wished she’d met me after she’s gotten everything together.
- OPJul 5, 2020KalamariFromParty
What makes you think she will ever realize any of that
She's most likely going to bounce from guy to guy until landing on one that will deal with all that s*** and is compatible with her toxic traits to the point she'll never have to realize anything ur sayingyour right she will bounce from person to person and end up ruining her life further but along the way she will realize that I was the best person in her life.
The thing with her bpd is that even if she’s with another guy, whenever she perceives abandonment (which happens daily) she’ll start thinking about other people and starting villainizing that person.
when she discards this person is when she’ll feel empty and that’s when she’ll think of me. Even though that may be a short period of time before she starts idealizing the next person.
Jul 5, 2020imShyYes, she always comes back to me. she’s impulsive and has cheated many times. I’m extremely empathetic but do realize I should not have forgiven her as many times as I did.
Not Only that but she would manipulate me into staying with her. There were many times were I thought if I leave this room right now I’m pretty sure she’ll end up in the hospital by the time I get back. It was my first real relationship I don’t know how to handle that kind of responsibility.
Anywho, she has a lot of childhood trauma obviously and when we started dating she hadn’t began the path to recovery. She had been in therapy and she had made lots of progress up to that point. But her family and therapist thought she was good because at face value she looked like she had everything under control. So she herself started being ignorant to how messed up she actually was.
Many times she’s told me she’s ruined me and that she’s wished she’d met me after she’s gotten everything together.
I just got out of a relationship with a pwbpd. She's f***ed up but we're f***ed up too. We enable them to be trash. Normal people don't put up with that s***.
- Jul 5, 2020imShy
Yes, she always comes back to me. she’s impulsive and has cheated many times. I’m extremely empathetic but do realize I should not have forgiven her as many times as I did.
Not Only that but she would manipulate me into staying with her. There were many times were I thought if I leave this room right now I’m pretty sure she’ll end up in the hospital by the time I get back. It was my first real relationship I don’t know how to handle that kind of responsibility.
Anywho, she has a lot of childhood trauma obviously and when we started dating she hadn’t began the path to recovery. She had been in therapy and she had made lots of progress up to that point. But her family and therapist thought she was good because at face value she looked like she had everything under control. So she herself started being ignorant to how messed up she actually was.
Many times she’s told me she’s ruined me and that she’s wished she’d met me after she’s gotten everything together.
Yeah if she keeps cheating then I think it’s gotta be over. Sorry bout it good buddy, there’s better things coming I’m sure
Jul 5, 2020Tbh get some therapy. Seriously, being in a relationship with a person who is mentally ill and has no desire to get it together eats you alive.
- Jul 5, 2020
Reading through this thread and yeah you gotta cut her off and move on man
Girls with mental issues are not worth that time and energy, there’s so many other options to be with someone who isn’t a burden in your life
- Jul 5, 2020
To my KTT members with bipolar or BPD I know some of the comments seem harsh. Don't feel like it's a personal attack against you. But when someone with these illnesses is not being compliant with medication and therapy they seem to take it out on the person closest to them.
Niggamortis 👨🚀Jul 5, 2020·1 replycan you post a pic of her so we can rate the level of toxicity
- Jul 5, 2020Niggamortis
can you post a pic of her so we can rate the level of toxicity
- OPJul 6, 2020·edited·1 reply
We couldn't talk face to face, when I went to her house she had left to visit her sister's place (she didn't know I was coming). So I texted her. Long paragraphs, lots of feelings. She told me she knows how toxic she is and that she's really been making strides to better herself and not continue her patterns. She said she had to do what she did (discard me) cause she realized she couldn't help the situation and it was better for the both of us that way. I told her how everything has affected so much I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust or love fully again. I really do believe that. Alll in all I think she was very mature throughout, she tried to explain things the best she could and acknowledge it's okay to feel the way I'm feeling.
When I was driving back from her place (I started texting her when I got home), I'm not a hateful person but I had a lot of animosity built towards her, but that's died down a bit.
The saddest part is that I said I envied how she is getting the better end of the stick. Cause she's happy in a new relationship, and she has someone that can at east help make it feel better--and i don't see myself being fully open with another girl for a very very long time.
But oh well.
It's all uphill from here boys - Jul 6, 2020imShy
We couldn't talk face to face, when I went to her house she had left to visit her sister's place (she didn't know I was coming). So I texted her. Long paragraphs, lots of feelings. She told me she knows how toxic she is and that she's really been making strides to better herself and not continue her patterns. She said she had to do what she did (discard me) cause she realized she couldn't help the situation and it was better for the both of us that way. I told her how everything has affected so much I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust or love fully again. I really do believe that. Alll in all I think she was very mature throughout, she tried to explain things the best she could and acknowledge it's okay to feel the way I'm feeling.
When I was driving back from her place (I started texting her when I got home), I'm not a hateful person but I had a lot of animosity built towards her, but that's died down a bit.
The saddest part is that I said I envied how she is getting the better end of the stick. Cause she's happy in a new relationship, and she has someone that can at east help make it feel better--and i don't see myself being fully open with another girl for a very very long time.
But oh well.
It's all uphill from here boysShe's gonna f*** that relationship up too. That or ruin the poor b******s life. I feel sorry for him tbqfh