I’m doing it for me only, and if it happens it happens

I dont think so

cool

Nah they don't actually feel the need to do it

It's like people going to the pyramids just cause they are there. No cultural or historical reason just to see it

Dude hit me with the thumbs

I agree on luck and timing, but honest to God if you're a quality guy with a good personality, qualities to yourself, and decently put together you'll lap up.

If you give women legitimate love and you're worth it, they'll take you over the 5 other guys she's talking to. Trust me.

OP I promise you just gotta keep trying but at the same time not force anything

Plus it’s only been 2 dates, ain’t like it’s the 30th time

i just make it a habit to take people at their word unless i've observed a pattern of lies. so with randoms online whatever they say is their truth. who am i to act like I know more about em than they do lmfao?

People are doing the most trying to get relationships and yet most of us are not focusing on how to maintain them and keep them healthy

Well we have to get that part first sir

Sometimes hoes fickle

I agree and disagree. I admittedly have a lot of faults I am trying to improve on, but giving women legitimate love is such a game now too. I’ve always been a very romantic type to where I definitely like to do these out of the ordinary romantic things with girls, but after coming back into the dating world after being cuffed for 6 years, it’s weird. I learned you can’t act “too interested” and being intentional from the start is a turn off for a lot of girls. That’s just my experience though

good job deleting the apps @op now keep that focus on yourself and become who you wanna be, not to increase your dating market value or to become who you think you wanna be due to relentless advertising, but deep down core value s***

the more stuff u can do that involves groups, third places, getting outside, etc. the better

They appear when you expect it the least

Don't stress it out and focus on what you can do now cause times are dire as they are

Exactly. This is one of the most f***ed components of dating that no one talks about. You go through all this hard work to find someone rare and start a relationship with. All you’ve known is trying to find a partner, but haven’t dealt wirh a lot of the issues that you only see when you’re in a relationship. Then it inevitably ends the relationship and you fall back into the same cycle.

Yea I’ve been going to a lot of meet-ups in the city and new experiences. Trying to always get out my comfort zone.

But I do get a bit obsessed with meeting someone and being in a relationship esp since I turn 27 next month

I get what you mean, wish I could do that.
Not talking about a specific person, just in general.

Like I said its just a feeling, I could be wrong.

Still asexuality is quite rare and saying u are asexual instead of a virgin past a certain age could be a good excuse to hide or explain the fact that you are a virgin. I have a friend that is a virgin at 27 and I dont clown him for that, multiple friends do tho, pretty much every time we're together. Always feel bad for the guy. If he called himself asexual I guess people would act differently towards him. I could understand not wanting all the clowning and calling urself asexual to try and stop it.

Probably a cliche but try to lower your expectations or prepare for an L.
Might be really difficult if you like the girl you're dating, but that could help you caring less if you take the L.

If the apps make you feel bad you did a good job deleting em. Just keep meeting people, eventually you'll get there.

I have prepared for an L, because I know how the game works. I go in without expectations and I’m never just talking to one girl either.

But just thinking it went well, making plans and then not to even get a ‘actually yea the vibe isn’t there’ text back just stings a lil.

It’s a scary world out there

Dating is super difficult these days you’re not alone

Spend some time with your friends

man u on the right track then. the less time you spend wrapped up in your own head the better. if you put most of your focus on what you lack (no gf) then you won't see and appreciate all that you already have (home, job, health, etc.)

cuz u dont wanna die some freak accident s*** in your late 20s and realize in that moment that u just wasted your adult life sad over some imaginary partner

and when u at those events n s*** ppl can smell partner desperation so just be there to have a good time and make acquaintances/friends

aint nothin wrong for feeling this way either, sometimes u gotta just let the sadness eat and then move forward tomorrow/next week or w/e

Yeah its difficult.

I've had the same thing happen to me a couple of times.
You keep wondering what you did wrong or where did it go wrong, but there is no point in that and you won't find that out.

It's just how people act these days unfortunately.

I barely approach irl anywhere because I’ve heard girls hate that s*** so I sorta got reliant on apps and sliding in on socials

thats why the events/groups/classes/hobbies path is the way imo

its where I met my girl anyway