I’ve been on dates where i offer to pay and the women are really surprised or offer a couple times to split and I’m like nah. I do it to look good, not cuz i feel like i have to. However if we’ve been on a few dates then ya we can split no prob. Or like i get dinner, they get drinks/dessert later on in the evening

I’m also glad it’s tru that most women don’t wanna be paid for/‘taken care of’ irl

Lmao I mean it's not like she costs me too much more than I'd be having to pay anyway. But absolutely I agree that's what I'm saying I'd almost rather not having all that catering and just get help, nigga drowning in finances

nothing wrong with provider mentality

This such a heterosexual conversation

Both people in a relationship need to provide, s*** is reciprocal
This is coming from an 18 year old with little life experience but yea

Damn you need to come clean to her about your situation if you haven't already. Your partner is to supposed to help and support you especially when you struggling so if she doesn't want to do anything to help then she's not the one bro.

I don’t see how this would be hard to find out a couple of dates in max

& that’s part of the point of dating so idk if it’s really that hard

Just ask if they got career aspirations lol.

For example, one of the last women I talked to said she wasn’t interested in being a ‘career woman’ when I asked about her work and I took that as an easy early sign to dip

Yeah I’m not taking life advice from mr finger her in public at a park

the provider mentality means half of all people should have no money at all that would make sense

Cause they some lazy bums

The Game not even wrong bruh but all I want is a girl I can come home to and love while she makes me some fire food, call me traditional but I like that type life and I’ll give that woman all my love and money

She can get her own money but it’s not required of her, Imma still take care of her regardless

Don't think I want a girl who isn't ambitious and a self-starter, tbh.

This why I love latinas, i provide for her and she provide all that ass

Man that self starter mentality so dumb I swear everyone gets some help from somewhere whether that be their family or friends or investors. Especially if it's a business. Yeah you could be a self starter employee and move up to higher positions though

You're taking what I'm saying out of context. I'm talking about being a self-starter as in having intrinsic motivation to follow through on your goals w/o needing to be pushed or dragged along. I'm not saying go at everything alone or w/o help.

Ohhh ok I thought you were saying it in that "pull up your bootstraps" kind of way

This actually happened to my uncle and his wife.

They’ve been together for like 30 years, have 7 kids. He used to be a d*** dealer for a while but went straight and has legitimate businesses. They basically live in a mansión. She has never had to get a job.

Some s*** that wasn’t his fault happened nearly tanked his business and all while he struggled she refused to work.

He straight up told me and my mom she ain’t the right one and if they divorce he knows all the kids gon side with him

If I HAD it like that I wouldn’t care. But we ain’t getting married and we ain’t having babies.

Nothing that’s gonna permanently f*** up my bag

I appreciate you saying "I do it to look good" and not trying to be the masculinity police. niggas acting like they do that s*** just for fun

he should've thought about that before he got her pregnant the first time, let alone 7th

the problem with making money and being successful is that it attracts the wrong kind of people. most ppl will treat you nicely and stick around bc they see an opportunity to live off you

write a book about it

also i like your jodeci pfp