1. Avoid cultivating relationships with the miserable, dysfunctional or depressed. I am someone who experiences anxiety often and depression from time to time tho not as often, so I would think “if I meet someone with these kinds of things affecting them or someone who has issues they’re working through, I shouldn’t discount them as a possible friend or partner” on some understanding s***.

The reality is that on average depending on how that person copes with their problems, you’re likely opening your self up to being burdened with more frustration, pain, resentment, annoyance etc trying to help/support that person navigate their issues or trying to provide solutions when its honestly better overall to just avoid it from the get go before you’re too invested.

Try to cultivate relationships with people who don’t have all these issues because the deeper you get involved with people the more they can affect you, whether you think it will or not. The moment you see hella baggage, trauma or drama, run far away unless you really really think it’s worth pursuing deepening that relationship, whether platonic or romantic.

2. If you want to increase your opportunities for meeting and building relationships with baddies, learn Spanish and get to know latinas that are heavily involved in their culture still on some like they live in the US but are more involved in their countries sub culture in the US than they are involved in the culture of the US in general type s***. It’s a cheat code no cap. Very underrated skill. And you bypass a lot of US superficial cultural f***ery that way. Plus it’s just extremely useful if you travel, domestically or internationally. Results may vary but I think most mfs can implement this long as you learn the language, are smooth socially and at least average looking, average income. Have your s*** together which you should already or if not then should be working towards. Learning another language especially Spanish is incredibly useful even if you take away a relationship component. It’s just good to have in your repertoire. Increases opportunities across the board.

I mean I just chose latinas because I think a large majority of men/people find latinas attractive (from what I’ve seen from other men and other non-racist people) and a lot of women/people find latin men attractive but this really is applicable to any cultural group or ethnicity I guess.

LOOOOOOOOOOL

"If you want to increase your opportunities for meeting and building relationships with baddies, learn Spanish and get to know latinas... Results may vary"

Facts tho

Learn spanish fluently, build your cultural knowledge and conversational skills and put yourself in situations where you can approach Latina women in a smooth way and watch your success ratio go way up long as you not ugly af and have your basics down (crib, car, bills paid, spending money, know how to groom yourself/dress nice, interpersonal skills etc)

And I don’t mean some chick who is American culturally but happens to be Hispanic, I mean a woman who still spends time with her family a lot but is grown so not too bound by their opinions, is still involved with her cultural community, speaks spanish more often then English, etc.

They be bad asf and easy going with a nice energy as long as you’re leading and actually engaging her on a personal level, at the right time. You will feel much more accommodated than you do with more America-centric minded women imo due to the cultural difference. Just more warmth overall idk, its hard to explain but you can feel it.

i find people who only think about p**** to be deeply unserious and probably miss their teenage years

I’m not even just talking about sex, I’m talking about relationships in general and also business/travel.

I’m trying to give advice to a lot of the guys on here who don’t know how to keep from being affected by dysfunctional people in their lives because they’re empathetic/accommodating towards ppl and their f***ery + dudes who don’t realize if you want a relationship and don’t like your dating pool, you can learn a language and open up a whole new one you may have not considered. Language is amazing. Plus Spanish is useful as s*** to know.

This advice even works for women seeking women or women seeking men, although maybe to a lesser degree. And it can work for anyone in a travel or business sense as well.

Yep cnnot spend my enrrgy around miserable people

Have to cut them out before they even get a chance to get immersed in your life. I don’t have any miserable people in my life any more because I don’t tolerate it. Theres things we can control and things we can’t. If it’s something they can’t really do something about but that still affects them, thats different and that is understandable. But if It is something that is actionable that they just won’t act on and rather immerse themselves in pity/misery/negativity and make it your problem or your burden? Cut them out with precision.

They will drain you more than you think.

-I’m not even just talking about s***-DR LONGSTROKE.

Thats just the name I chose long ago, had it for too long to change the branding now

If you’re trying to meet people with no baggage you’ll meet liars, so many people obfuscate their baggage, at least if you meet someone that tells the truth about it they’ll be likely more open to fixing it than someone that denies even having it

Learning new languages is great, learning about different cultures is great, being specifically interested in one culture because you think the women are hot is very weird

That’s true that many people obfuscate their baggage or even pretend like they don’t have any. I really think it depends on what the extent of the baggage is that determines whether you should engage or not. That’s different for everyone but my tolerance is low at this point. I’m in a relationship anyways though.

How is learning the language of a culture that you are interested in and where you find people of that culture attractive more often that not, very wierd lol?

If a non-Korean woman likes KPOP or K-Dramas or some s***, finds Korean guys attractive on average, is interested in immersing herself more in that culture and she learns Korean and meets a guy who she meshes with on a personal level plus meets her personal preferences, why would that be weird?

Or if someone has experienced more attraction or compatibility with people from say Haiti or Jamaica, and they learn those languages/dialect and immerse themselves more in that culture?

That sounds effective imo and respectful for getting to know the language and culture of people with similar traits you may have found attractive over time

People can be attracted to or mesh better with certain traits or cultural aspects that are more prevalent in specific cultures compared to others, and I think these things often contribute to what someone’s type is.

As long as they’re not closing themselves off from being interested in different types of people or different races of people on some “Sorry, I only date white men” subtly racist s***, I don’t see how that is controversial.

Are u still with the girlfriend that hit u?

Yeah, we’re doing great. I forgave her for that and her and I have done a lot of work together. Communication is important. Although tedious.
Probably getting engaged/married in the coming years as long as she acts right.

I think she will act right because 1) we have a really rare connection and love each other 2) I’m good looking and she knows I have options if I was single because I used to be a man w**** and have great social skills 3) I have a good job and my income is on route to double and triple over the next couple years. I show her I respect her and value her perspectives, that I value her and see her for who she is etc.

If shes smart she’ll keep close. I really value her because I respect her and trust her more than pretty much any partner I’ve had because of the character shes displayed, besides the moments of turmoil in the past. I don’t want to be with anyone else. No one is perfect.

You can try but I’m so mysterious and handsome. I’m like a Venus fly trap but you can fix me

this the gilf?

Nah it's true
Used to hang around miserable people and wanted to elevate em

It's too difficult
Cause u, can never change anyone,they have to change themselves
In order to do that they need to self reflect and actively take charge of their actions and thoughts

Which is difficult for alot of ppl

And they'll start blaming u too for their problems or neg way of thinking/living

It will eat u and drain u quickly

I had to learn this too, am a very empathic person, I luv helping ppl and seeing them happy/win
But once u focus on the wrong mofos, ur screwed, energy vampires

It's best u surround urself with ppl that are positive and happy, determined and focused
That ACTUALLY WANT TO SOLVE THEIR OWN PROBLEMS

sociopath type thread

It's actually very weird how toxicity has become such a norm
At least where am from

It's so weird/frowned upon to be happy and smiling

The miserable ones hate that
"Am miserable, so u should be and feel miserable too!"

They'll even go out of their way, to make sure u c their frowning ass face

As an adult, I can say, being positive, self assured, happy, being a problem solver etc it's actually one of the most intimidating personality traits to have

Alot of ppl are comfortable and confident being a loser
Cause ur just hating, nothing in life is easier than judging others

But being a comfortable and confident winner that knows how to satisfy themselves without the need of others and thrives on what they love
Ooh that's difficult, cause now u need to be comfortable af in ur own shoes and instead of focusing on judging others, u only judge the man in the mirror

In on a longstroke thread

No my gf is late 20s I don’t know what you’re referencing

Hahahaha

Funny cause I’m eating hot pancakes & eggs rn in my office

Facts. Can’t change them. Can’t force them to self reflect even if it is to their benefit. If they’re not open to change or acting after gaining advice or support, repetitively, cut them loose unless they’ve been extremely supportive or there for you. They will resent you for being in a better place even though you’ve been making decisions to work towards that and make progress and they haven’t.

I love helping people and see them win too. I am empathetic but I don’t let empathy guide my choices in life because I would usually take Ls when doing so in the past. It’s better to surround yourself with people who are already successful and have their s*** together or people who are trying to grow and doing the most with what they have already.

Sounds like you're one step away from being a passport bro