Thanks for the constructive feedback

I’m not even being mean I’m just being honest

true met a gorgeous woman at church yesterday when i was trying to get people to sign up for this youth ski trip im organizing but i was alluding more to bible study. lotta pure souls at bible study tho

No I know they exist it’s just very difficult to find them because everyone I date is in the fashion field and they’re all self-centered and delusional

And I’ve been in that exact same scenario too bro haha

What do you mean by that

I want to finally settle down but I can’t lie to her and say I’m physically attracted if I’m not

seek therapy instead of seeking a thread to stroke your ego

somalynoutherapy.com/nyc-ego-state-parts-work

I’m really not dating for the approval of others as an ego or status thing I legit don’t care what people think of me it’s genuinely how I feel and I can’t change who I’m naturally physically attracted to

LOL

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Nah fam, not at all. I ofc don't know your life but always had the impression that you had s*** figured out. So it just sucked to read that you weren't happy in this aspect of your life.

I hope posting in this thread was useful for you and that you'll work this out in due time!

The problem is I have the best life and love life so I could never move away #1 because I always want to live close to my family and #2 I’ve networked here and I’m too successful in my field to restart elsewhere

Nah, your post def comes off as if your only dating women for attention or likes on social media.

I have/do!! I just wanted additional perspectives on this

F*** what they talking about Rocket. Never settle. There's a 10 out there for you. Your standards are just higher.

Therapy has been great and this isn’t an ego thing either

I’m disappointed in myself and I’m not even proud of this so I don’t understand how you can assume it’s ego related

It’s purely based on my flaw regarding how my brain is wired to determine who is physically attractive to me and who isn’t and it’s something I want to work on

Actually, your heart and brain fades, too. Even physically.

Ooo I see well it’s not that I’m unhappy it’s just that I see this as an issue that I eventually need to address and figure out before it becomes a bigger problem

And thank you so much you’re the best!!

Thanks bro for the confidence

I just don’t know if I will ever find the one I’m looking for

nyc is big enough to meet new ppl every day and/or meet ppl once and never see them again. if this is the life you want to live, just gotta have faith. I used to think the same way, but it's possible. just don't give up

i think a lot of people on here underestimate how self-reflective and open about their flaws one can be. i didn’t get the impression that you were trying to brag or talk down on anyone in this thread. (though outright calling your friends partners ugly is a no go, even if it‘s true)

maybe it’s because i see some of my old self in you. it‘s good that you‘re noticing patterns in your life and actively trying to change them. i think one day a girl will come that will make you change your ways, whether you want to or not. at least that‘s how it was for me.

i kept chasing baddies and went wild for some years with nothing but one night stands and meaningless sex. when i was finally ready to commit to someone, it all went to s***. she was an awful person and i actually knew right from the start. but it was the path i‘ve paved for so many years, so i just had to see it through. even though i knew it wouldn‘t end good.

it f***ed me up so bad that i realized i can’t disregard someone‘s personality just because they‘re hot. i haven’t been in love since, but at least i‘m not having headaches anymore either.

while everyone around you gets married and starts building a family it‘s only natural to feel like you‘re missing out, but not everyone can live the same life. every life moves at it’s own pace. who knows if a genuine relationship is what’s best for you right now? only time will tell. comparison is the thief of joy, can‘t say it enough. walk your path and stick to it. stay blessed

Seek therapy man, respectfully. This is beyond ktt's purview

You’re totally right and I appreciate the positive support

I know there are a lot of people in NYC but what I’m finding out is that doesn’t mean a lot of them are good people

I feel like my extreme standards are self-sabotage because it narrows down potential dating partners from millions to hundreds

What was bad ab her ?

ofc, not everyone is gonna be a saint, you yourself admitted all your girls were bad lol.

perhaps now is just not your time to meet the one. in fact, it might happen when you least expect it. just don't put too much pressure on yourself.

you'll be alright my g

Post some lookalike pics of your type? Im curious what 10/10 is to you as its different to every body

Facts real ones know u gotta go for the educated baddie who could be a model but doesnt take social media seriously she just makes dance vids w her friends