Jul 17, 2021·2 repliessafeMeditation helps
cant ever meditate my head is way too loud and scattered
Jul 17, 2021·1 replyI didn't
Jul 17, 2021i haven’t
s*** hitting like a planet rn- Jul 17, 2021
UnwoundIt trully is the antidote for unnecessary suffering and more. It's sounds so simple and maybe pointless at times when starting but when it clicks it's a profoundly transformative experience... Honestly it should be taught in every school lol
strongly agree
- Jul 17, 2021Womanpuncher69
cant ever meditate my head is way too loud and scattered
get the headspace app
and just do 10-15 minutes every day regardless of how loud your head is
it'll feel dumb and pointless but force yourself to do it every day for a month and then decide if you wanna keep goingit makes a real difference but you WILL be bad at it to begin with and you won't notice a difference early on
Jul 17, 2021
MVP Pinheadyeah get a consistent gym schedule, stay on a strict diet, go out with any friends who’s willing to do anything, set goals (big or small) and make sure you follow through with them
This man is giving you real actionable advice. Doing something physical to boost your mood and release your stress and pent up emotion is so important after a break up. The gym is a god send fr. Find a bro of yours that is already swole or wants to get fit and get in there with him.
Find some hobbies. F*** new b****es, but this time not raw unless they soooo fire u gotta hit raw (I understand bro)
And realize that that girl was temporary regardless of the bond you shared and that the only thing you can do is move on and live life and experience things while you can.
Time waits for no man.
- Jul 17, 2021
terrorI wouldn’t say I was depressed, but when I was younger I had a lot of internal strife that just wouldn’t go away for reasons unknown. Around that age, I adopted a sort of nihilistic world view. Not in the sense of “everything is pointless, so why even try?”, but “If everything is pointless, I will just make myself happy by doing things that I enjoy until I no longer exist”.
I had the same view bro. Still kind of do to an extent but I see the value in certain things more. Some things are worth denying yourself instant validation for.
- Jul 17, 2021
TheWanderingStarsGuys, this idea that working out and setting a “healthy” routine will eventually solve your depression…it’s bullshit. If you needed that to heal, you probably weren’t depressed, you were just tired and unmotivated.
Depression is an existential void. You need to confront this void in order to identify what’s wrong with your life. The thing that is wrong with your life is often induced by your (socioeconomic) environment, whether it’s your current environment or your past environment. Being aware of the elements which have an influence on you is crucial to gain some control over your life. It goes beyond the “self help” bullshit telling you to lift weights and to wake at 6 AM. I go to the gym every day, it’s agreeable and useful but it doesn’t help. Trust me.
The only helpful thing to do is to seek beauty. There is true beauty beyond the ugliness of the modern world. It’s ephemeral so you better seek it actively. It’s within the smile of a child, the eyes of a woman, the soul of an artist who communicates with you through space and time. God is reflected through beauty. But you don’t have to believe in Him, even atheists and agnostics are able to find beauty. That’s also the beauty of it.
Damn this really spoke to me.
Jul 17, 2021soapmanwunI didn't
- OPJul 17, 2021TheWanderingStars
Getting out of what?
the rut the constant self destructive cycle
- Jul 17, 2021·1 reply
Husk_Strong social support from friends. Always going out and being engaged with friends in fun activities
This is super important. My dawgs helped me through my hard times. Few things are more comforting imo then knowing you have a second family that values you and has your back.
At least, that’s if they’re quality friends.
- OPJul 17, 2021TheWanderingStars
Guys, this idea that working out and setting a “healthy” routine will eventually solve your depression…it’s bullshit. If you needed that to heal, you probably weren’t depressed, you were just tired and unmotivated.
Depression is an existential void. You need to confront this void in order to identify what’s wrong with your life. The thing that is wrong with your life is often induced by your (socioeconomic) environment, whether it’s your current environment or your past environment. Being aware of the elements which have an influence on you is crucial to gain some control over your life. It goes beyond the “self help” bullshit telling you to lift weights and to wake at 6 AM. I go to the gym every day, it’s agreeable and useful but it doesn’t help. Trust me.
The only helpful thing to do is to seek beauty. There is true beauty beyond the ugliness of the modern world. It’s ephemeral so you better seek it actively. It’s within the smile of a child, the eyes of a woman, the soul of an artist who communicates with you through space and time. God is reflected through beauty. But you don’t have to believe in Him, even atheists and agnostics are able to find beauty. That’s also the beauty of it.
wow this opened my mind
- OPJul 17, 2021safe
Meditation helps
never wrks out for me i try but it always feels resistant
- OPJul 17, 2021
LeinLuck and having people to rely on I guess.
I was lucky enough to be able to just leave the s***ty environment which made me depressed, and I had people to talk to and get my mind off things. Having people/someone that motivate and help you to break your bad habits is also helpful.
im one of those people who kind of has ot isolate and feel everything fully and go through the hell coming out stonger type
Jul 17, 2021Connecting to a power higher than myself, to put it simply.
- OPJul 17, 2021Womanpuncher69
cant ever meditate my head is way too loud and scattered
me
- Jul 17, 2021·edited·1 reply
you’re not married to the story you tell yourself. I know it’s easy to think our current situation defines us but it doesn’t. it’s just a part of the story that is your life. nothing has to define you, not even the parts where you’re down bad. i went through something pretty messed up myself with a shordie recently. long story short I was like you, f***ing other girls doing stupid s***. That s*** didn’t really make the pain go away though. just numbed it. eventually I realized I didn’t have to “feel” down bad about s***, and just started focusing on building the life I always wanted for myself. it’s tough but your mental is everything. have faith that you can get through this and envision the version of you who is above your current situation. even when the current situation is s*** and seems endless, eventually it goes away. Just have faith.
stay strong bro. peace and love
- OPJul 17, 2021Fitz
you’re not married to the story you tell yourself. I know it’s easy to think our current situation defines us but it doesn’t. it’s just a part of the story that is your life. nothing has to define you, not even the parts where you’re down bad. i went through something pretty messed up myself with a shordie recently. long story short I was like you, f***ing other girls doing stupid s***. That s*** didn’t really make the pain go away though. just numbed it. eventually I realized I didn’t have to “feel” down bad about s***, and just started focusing on building the life I always wanted for myself. it’s tough but your mental is everything. have faith that you can get through this and envision the version of you who is above your current situation. even when the current situation is s*** and seems endless, eventually it goes away. Just have faith.
stay strong bro. peace and love
thank u for the words g luv
Jul 17, 2021CKL TMLI need to make it a daily thing. My anxiety isnt as bad as it once was but im still stuggling with it daily and kinda lost the meaning of life after losing my parents (especially mother)
think thats a lil more than meditation can handle but im sure itll help a little, sorry for your loss fr thats deep
Jul 17, 2021·1 replyStill in. Just different levels
One day inshallah. Whole family depressed we just show it differently
Jul 17, 2021Still in it but art is my therapy
- Jul 17, 2021
Lifting weights
Writing (or any creative outlet)
Anime/Tv/Video Games
Music
Soul Searchingand ofc meds and therapy
- Jul 17, 2021RRRBBB
Still in. Just different levels
One day inshallah. Whole family depressed we just show it differently
real
plants 🌻Jul 17, 2021·2 repliesTheWanderingStarsGuys, this idea that working out and setting a “healthy” routine will eventually solve your depression…it’s bullshit. If you needed that to heal, you probably weren’t depressed, you were just tired and unmotivated.
Depression is an existential void. You need to confront this void in order to identify what’s wrong with your life. The thing that is wrong with your life is often induced by your (socioeconomic) environment, whether it’s your current environment or your past environment. Being aware of the elements which have an influence on you is crucial to gain some control over your life. It goes beyond the “self help” bullshit telling you to lift weights and to wake at 6 AM. I go to the gym every day, it’s agreeable and useful but it doesn’t help. Trust me.
The only helpful thing to do is to seek beauty. There is true beauty beyond the ugliness of the modern world. It’s ephemeral so you better seek it actively. It’s within the smile of a child, the eyes of a woman, the soul of an artist who communicates with you through space and time. God is reflected through beauty. But you don’t have to believe in Him, even atheists and agnostics are able to find beauty. That’s also the beauty of it.
I love this and value it greatly but you can't downplay the neurological effects of certain things. For instance exercise and spending time in nature are both shown to alleviate some amount of the many different types of depression (not a cure of course, and doesnt help I'm every case either), as well as increase cognitive function and memory recall.
It's a multi-faceted thing, and must be approached from as many angles as is helpful.
Jul 17, 2021It sucks but I talk to friends and listen to music and think positive thoughts about the future try and stay busy, watch comfort shows (mine is HIMYM and Icarly) and just live through the emotions