relatable

I laughed fr

Hell yeah. Good for you bro, I’m not quite ready to give up on my relationship or anything because things are good but I do miss like being outside going to parties talking to different women and like linking up/smashing, having fun with my friends, traveling, s*** like that . Theres not even as much of an incentive for me to travel any more I feel like because while I do like seeing new places, what’s the point if I can’t go to a country see some cool s*** and get some p**** there? That’s like 30% of the allure of going to a new country for me lmfao

I go some places and all I see are fine hoes who eye me down or that even approach me but I can’t do s*** because I want to be loyal

This is why I didn’t pursue becoming a therapist

I’d throw a tomato at you nigga

Hahahaha I actually just got into therapy, s***s cool

No but the difference is most women get hit on. I’m a PMF, a lot of men don’t get hit on or opportunities to connect like an attractive man does. Its more meaningful I feel like that I have the self control to dub the women who approach me.

I don’t think she would cheat on me no. I’ve felt that general lack of respect in the past and I feel like I didn’t deserve it because I do a lot to show I’m dedicated to her when I really could be wilding out here

I feel happier in my relationship but I also feel constricted

Who is that? Link me
Or do u mean like the Kendrick album

I mean honestly I’m not desperate but it’s a couple shorties who done like approached me or flirted with me that just had me like “damn…I’m really committed to this relationship if I was single I would be inside her like tmrw” like a sense of regret of knowing I could pull a lot of shorties if I was willing to pursue them. Like I can literally think of like 10+ instances in the last 6 months of me having to pass up on pursuing some fine s*** and I’m like damn..

Bro just breakup with her, thats what it sounds like you really want. Do that before you just cheat

Go to therapy @op

not even on some condescending s***. That sense of validation you can get from a hookup is real and hard to let go of, but you don't need it

I never wanted to cheat on my gf but I did used to think I was lame for turning down hookup opportunities due to being in a relationship and felt terrible about thinking that so I went to therapy and over time those fears went away and I'm happily monogamous with no doubts in my mind

That male ego highkey delicate and that's okay if you get help for that before doing anything you'll regret. Lotta men base their self-worth on their sexual desirability/virility and end up cheating as a result of a deeper self-confidence issue, botching a great relationship in the process. Don't take that L man

how old are you @op

23

I wouldn’t usually say this man but break up… if it’s meant to be you’ll be back together… that’s TOO MUCH ass to pass up on… this the g s*** that some mfs need to hear… good luck

the men on ktt are s*** lmfao

no wonder sexy redd and ice spice are as big as they are now content wise

Pshhh stop men and women are both hoes

exactly my point

How is that your point? Like I’m not gonna yeah men are s*** but women are on the same exact bs

we lowered the bar overall

Powerful statement

If u really loved ur girl you wouldn’t even think about it

See, you understand. I think that sense of validation I would get is like crack for me cause for me it validates that I have options and am attractive (which I already know that but I think consecutive negative experiences shook my confidence years ago and made me doubt it. ) so basically being hyper successful with hooking up with women made me feel good. And then once I really started dating around a lot, knowing I was generally passable and could attract interest from different women without doing too much made me feel a lot more powerful and confident in myself ig. I mean it is something that is important to a lot of men. I miss like the rush of seeing some fine s***, hopping down & getting her number then setting up plans and then things are like going good you know? And before you know it - I’m smashing

I don’t want to cheat on my gf and that is why I don’t take these surface level interactions I have with women any further than I do because I know where things will go and I don’t want to do that to my partner. I do feel the regret though internally like my brain is screaming at me “ahhhh you could have f***ed shorty, she was feeling you if you would have put more of your personality /more effort into the convo! But you have a girlfriend!!!!”

I think a lot of my self worth is based in how attractive I am to women, but I think I also just enjoy having s***with different types of women, it feels good to be like the dominant force in an interaction and know like “she’s feeling me heavy and I’m gonna f*** her crazy whenever we get to that”

I don’t want to f*** up my relationship though, def don’t want to take that L. That’s why I haven’t done anything with these situations I’ve found myself in. Don’t want to lose the person I have. It’s just difficult.