gbluecheez

1y

If u really loved ur girl you wouldn’t even think about it

gbluecheez

1y

If u really loved ur girl you wouldn’t even think about it

Czy

1y

One p**** one vagina God prefers it that way but no harm in having multiple partners granted your main knows of them and are fine with you having polygamous relationship know yourself one b**** can be enough on your plate you should also be making enough time for them, treated equally good luck brother on your pursuit remember it’s Gods will it can be a gift or curse depending on how you go about it don’t let these demons detract from ultimate purpose I say demons bc women make you go soft (if you don’t know what you’re after) and you don’t want that this early in your life I agree it is fundamental you want to settle down eventually but not if you’re just starting to hit your prime lemme tell u this first hand it took a lot for me overcome that I used to think it was all about p**** I came to worship the wrong commodity if anything it helped me come to terms with reality, my true self all I was doing was putting women on a pedestal until I realized how much energy I was wasting like a dog with a bone I was being controlled that sense conditioned to chase after them. It took me long time to realize women are not end all be all exert all my energy into committing my life mission to serve the almighty deconstructing life’s essence, improving self, find a partner who can share these values with not some fling one night stand ish once you come fully to terms with what you want out of life once it becomes clear cut for you will know that the woman is not there for your vanity and animalistic desires thats just the packing material that comes with the package any most woman can offer this your partner should serve to complement you, to grow and build the foundation for future generations to leave lasting mark and legacy behind, if you desire multiple then that is act of God it was predestined you will end up with multiple partners or you could refrain from submitting to the temptation your lust for women comes from your deviancy which is the curse you should try to avoid at all costs stick to just that your one women if she makes you happy enough don’t try to f*** up a good thing your lust will come and go but this women if she provides for you value don’t give that up bc of your longing for infidelity which is just fleeting potentially risk destroying your relationship for different p**** which is so tempting i experience it daily but I persevere unless it’s meant to be to have more than one partner, one p**** one vagina live by that rule bro don’t let the lust consume you will thank yourself later in life when you running an empire creating sustainable legacy the right woman will help you succeed in your endeavours

DR LONGSTROKE

1y

See, you understand. I think that sense of validation I would get is like crack for me cause for me it validates that I have options and am attractive (which I already know that but I think consecutive negative experiences shook my confidence years ago and made me doubt it. ) so basically being hyper successful with hooking up with women made me feel good. And then once I really started dating around a lot, knowing I was generally passable and could attract interest from different women without doing too much made me feel a lot more powerful and confident in myself ig. I mean it is something that is important to a lot of men. I miss like the rush of seeing some fine s***, hopping down & getting her number then setting up plans and then things are like going good you know? And before you know it - I’m smashing

I don’t want to cheat on my gf and that is why I don’t take these surface level interactions I have with women any further than I do because I know where things will go and I don’t want to do that to my partner. I do feel the regret though internally like my brain is screaming at me “ahhhh you could have f***ed shorty, she was feeling you if you would have put more of your personality /more effort into the convo! But you have a girlfriend!!!!”

I think a lot of my self worth is based in how attractive I am to women, but I think I also just enjoy having s***with different types of women, it feels good to be like the dominant force in an interaction and know like “she’s feeling me heavy and I’m gonna f*** her crazy whenever we get to that”

I don’t want to f*** up my relationship though, def don’t want to take that L. That’s why I haven’t done anything with these situations I’ve found myself in. Don’t want to lose the person I have. It’s just difficult.

Zack From The Six

1y

I don't get why ppl love hooking up with a lot of random girls, it's nowhere near as good as being with someone you have feelings for

DR LONGSTROKE

1y

Wow this is some real s***. Given me a lot to think about. I feel like she is this person for me a person I could build a legacy with. She is a great person but she also has some problems she needs to deal with too from her parents and her upbringing and negative experiences in life and relationships. Sometimes I wonder to myself am I living sub optimally now that I am in a relationship when I could have been living a more pleasurable/hedonistic life and been kind of just self actualizing while still doing all that

Or is being in the relationship the right move and more worth my investment? I have been with my girl for a minute now and I feel like I have been more happy with her than before I was with her, so I feel like my staying true to my relationship is the right decision to make generally but that longing to live like I used to and the desire to hook up with random women is still ever present in the back of my head n s*** f***s with me.

Like I feel like I have a voice in the back of my head like “damn you f***ing up! You should have followed up on that convo with _ who was showing you a lot of interest” because that is what I was always used to doing. I’m not used to having attractive women show me they’re interested and me not pursue that.

Malakas

1y

Love and companionship is a test of discipline and loyalty. This sounds like a good woman, and you say you’re happier and more fulfilled now that you’re with her than before. Did random p**** ever result in this fulfillment? It didn’t, so you’d be trading a far better thing for something inherently worse

DR LONGSTROKE

1y

you’re right. I spent some days with my lady and realized this is the person for me. She accepts me for who I am and loves me and has a lot of great qualities outside of the arguments we used to get into. Feel like we’ve found our stride and are still perfecting our dynamic but there is tons of love and vulnerability here.

She is a good woman and I never want to hurt her. I think I was tempted by more women who are more attractive than I’m usually used to hitting on me in the last year or so and me not having much long term relationship experience so I’m used to following up with that. like basically giving into urges to hook up even if I don’t necessarily like the person just because that is what I used to do.

I also was conflicted because my partner had baggage from her past and there was just a lot of argument provoking things in the first 8-9 months of our relationship. we fought a lot initially because of unprocessed trauma and miscommunication & just a lot of s*** like that. Other underlying factors too. but I am going to see things through and maintain focused on my girl. We have something good here and I don’t want to lose it. I’ve never felt this seen by someone else.

I’m going to continue growing with her and I guess just tunnel vision. Ignore anything outside of what I’m building with her.

Young King

1y

J cole said he hadda stay off ig because of too many bad hoes. Do that

Not Like Josuke

1y

Misread op as sliding shoes and thought we were gonna talk about Heelys

Undecided

1y

Calm down. This dude was picking up gas station attendants and stalking grandmas leaving bingo.

ThisIsNeverThat

1y

I feel you bro... im fresh out my relationship and been sliding like a f***ing BD in Chicago

Got my mojo back

Based Gaultier

1y

They p**** can read when your dating other women bro they got a sixth sense women do it on purpose

gbluecheez

1y

If u really loved ur girl you wouldn’t even think about it

Zezima

1y

Me with my current gf. Ngl I’ve cheated on every girl I’ve dated since like 21, but at 29 this is the first girl where I don’t feel the need to do that. She is amazing even on her bad days. I love her.