Sep 20, 2021·edited
OnyxShine9I think they think I start crying and sweating profusely when people use those demanding remarks, on account of me bringing it up at all. If they don't care then I'm "bitching" or suggesting I "don't understand what they mean" ...somehow.
Its such a juvenile leap in judgement about a person. Its like if a guy says he likes a quality of another guy, and calling it gay. Its as childish as that. I think for them its easier to dismiss any substance of the concern that is not relevant to them, or a defensive response for calling them out on something they do.
@World1 in particular has like, 10 posts in this thread, just fuming over nothing. Despite saying at the bottom its not a reflection of people, just the way they speak. I think he just wakes up mad.
literally
you spend 1 min telling someone about it and then completely forget it, unless it was a completely egregious incidentor you can make 10 angry ktt posts idk
felli_varda ♦️Sep 20, 2021
Malakas“Let me have” is asking for permission to have something tho, so I don’t see the issue with that one. In the end it’s nothing more than semantics. People probably don’t see it as rude or disrespectful
Exactly lol i didnt even know this was rude.
Sep 20, 2021probably bc alot of retail workers dont stand up for themselves when a bad customer treats them like sh*t in fear of losing there job they enable the behaviour
- Sep 20, 2021
Man makes emotional thread on KTT but yeah you keep it between co-workers in the break room
11 angry posts
Sep 20, 2021That's the societal norm though and we've all grown up seeing people buy stuff like that. It's not about being rude. 7/10 customers will talk like that
Sep 20, 2021
CodyYou’re upset at wording something a certain way when you know what they really mean
Great post
- Sep 20, 2021Jihyo
“Can I got to the bathroom”
Teacher: “Idk, CAN you?! 🥸”Headass
Exactly.
- Sep 20, 2021World1
Imagine the nigga in the service station getting bent out of shape enough to make a thread about it because I said “Let me get two packs of swishers.”
Like stfu
I guess if I don’t pay at the pump I should say “May I have some gas on pump two?”NahI know I can so i’ma say “Put $40 on pump 2.” Lol that’s not rude nigga do your job.
- Sep 20, 2021World1
I do all the time but OP doesnt care. Just like if I tell somebody “Let me get a…” i’m going to say thank you after the deed is done.
That’s the point. How someone words a request hardly has s*** to do with their upbringing and OP is just whining and clearly taking s*** personal lol
Like he feels inadequate because people dont kiss his ass or something
Damn this nigga posting that real
- Sep 20, 2021
I respect @OP for bringing awareness to his cause
Now that I've learned his perspective, I'll can't help but be mindful of what I say to retail workers. When you learn better, you do better
ghosting ®️Sep 20, 2021feel like its more about tone/attitude, but I get what op is. saying
- Sep 20, 2021
BlenderBluidYears ago I heard someone say “you can give me a..” and I still think about how much I hated that til this day.
Lmfaoooooo hold up I might start saying this
- Sep 20, 2021·1 replyOnyxShine9
I think they think I start crying and sweating profusely when people use those demanding remarks, on account of me bringing it up at all. If they don't care then I'm "bitching" or suggesting I "don't understand what they mean" ...somehow.
Its such a juvenile leap in judgement about a person. Its like if a guy says he likes a quality of another guy, and calling it gay. Its as childish as that. I think for them its easier to dismiss any substance of the concern that is not relevant to them, or a defensive response for calling them out on something they do.
@World1 in particular has like, 10 posts in this thread, just fuming over nothing. Despite saying at the bottom its not a reflection of people, just the way they speak. I think he just wakes up mad.
Nah, World is on some real s***.
For me it's troubling reading your words about how it's the way people are speaking being what bothers you.
I guess it's because I live around a lot of black people who say that (Atlanta). So when I read posts in here about how customers basically should talk different than how they talk normally, even though y'all know what they mean.... it sounds like you're criticizing something cultural, that has nothing to do with politeness at all.
Sep 20, 2021·1 replyWhat if they preface it with a “Hello”, or “How are you doing today”?
- Sep 20, 2021·editedTito Ninety Four
Nah, World is on some real s***.
For me it's troubling reading your words about how it's the way people are speaking being what bothers you.
I guess it's because I live around a lot of black people who say that (Atlanta). So when I read posts in here about how customers basically should talk different than how they talk normally, even though y'all know what they mean.... it sounds like you're criticizing something cultural, that has nothing to do with politeness at all.
Without saying where I live I see all customers. Black white Asian African. Very very mixed demographic. Most people in general speak like this unfortunately.
Even so. It shouldn't be offensive to suggest a better way of speaking, no? If it makes the interaction more pleasant for everyone. I have a very proper speaking tone and was always mocked for it by my family growing up, even though thats different from strangers. Not that I would correct or suggest a stranger speak differently, because I don't know them like that.
- Sep 20, 2021·editedCrimsonArk
What if they preface it with a “Hello”, or “How are you doing today”?
That always nice to hear and makes the exchange more relaxed in general. To be clear I don't hold it over peoples head when they say things like "I need" or "get me a" unless its combined with an unpleasant or entitled tone. I'd prefer if they were more polite but I don't hold them to it.
- Sep 20, 2021·1 replyOnyxShine9
I work in retail and it always bugs me every single time it happens how casual people say things like “give me”, “get me a” or “let me have a” among other similarly demanding remarks. It’s such a rude way to ask for something, and I could never fix myself to say that to someone. I wasn’t even raised to say this but I always say may I have our can I have a. It just feels more right and will get you a lot further of you need help with something otherwise.
Not that this is a reflection of their character or anything, it’s just the way they speak. Still impossible not to notice.
I can relate. In NY you hear it 90% of the time. If I'm asking for anything especially if I'm being serviced I'm going to ASK politely, it's not how I was raised either just common sense to me. Treat others how you expect to be treated
- Sep 20, 2021Malakas
“Let me have” is asking for permission to have something tho, so I don’t see the issue with that one. In the end it’s nothing more than semantics. People probably don’t see it as rude or disrespectful
Demanding vs asking is not a matter of semantics
- Sep 20, 2021·1 replyNinethlevel
I can relate. In NY you hear it 90% of the time. If I'm asking for anything especially if I'm being serviced I'm going to ASK politely, it's not how I was raised either just common sense to me. Treat others how you expect to be treated
Yeah its the worst in big cities where people aren't as concerned with manners and etiquette. I wonder if its also like this in wealthy communities vs poor ones.
- Sep 20, 2021OnyxShine9
Yeah its the worst in big cities where people aren't as concerned with manners and etiquette. I wonder if its also like this in wealthy communities vs poor ones.
It definetly is, I work in an affluent area (retail but not what most would think.)The norm for customers is to treat employees like dog ish but, I noticed responding to disrespect with consistent professionalism and kindness slowly does change the trend. This is due to the fact we see the same customer's on a consistent basis and they depend on the service more then say a mcchicken or an outfit. I love that people think paying for a service voids the responsibility to treat and speak to someone as a human being.
Sep 23, 2021·1 replyCo-worker told me he doesn’t like it when people ask him “what?”
Like I can’t hear him cuz it’s a f***ing factory and I say “what?!?!” And he’s like “there you go saying that word again…”
Come on bro get tf Outta here
He says people should say “excuse me?” Or “sorry?”
Nah Unk!
- Sep 23, 2021
Unk gotta dent in his head that still got hair in it
Sep 23, 2021Working retails really show you the worst in society
- Sep 23, 2021
I remember a few years ago I was at a chipotle ordering my laxative and this lady was pointing at the glass to order her food while on her phone. S*** was cringe as hell and embarrassing “yeah, lemme get dat and I need more scoops of chicken….I SAID MORE!” Yeah girl I’m back….whatchu say!?”
Why do you have to point at the glass? Why are you loud as hell? Why are you on the phone?
