esp if it's a boy, he gon catch these hands! Next thing you know he thinks he can talk to every elderly person like that unprovoked

Exactly, I honestly feel black people everywhere experienced this when we were kids. For some people it did them good for others it did more damage but I feel like it taught to respect our parents.

Nothing but facts.

It's literally that, you can tell someone not do something however many times but if they know they'll get spanked because of it then a lot of the times it won't happen again.

i cant see an alternative tho tbh

Idk. A lot has changed in the last 20-30 years. I got spanked and I dont think it negatively affected me. Prob won't do it if I have kids tho s*** is frowned upon these days.

Switches are f***ed tho

Do you find violence is only educational in promoting violence? Your parents hit you, so you're going to hit your kids and so on. And do you respect your parents or are you scared of them? Did that blur in adolescence?

I def deserved a whipping tho kids are crazy and annoying

To be fair, Lauryn hill didn't make that up, maybe she was thought that way even by her peers... Here era was def more open to physical punishment as even stand up comedians joked about it/promoted it... I don't think Lauryn hill was trying to damage her child psychologically.

Go to your room Jimmy!!!

Exactly, for me I appreciate my parents beatings because it taught respect and discipline, also to know what I shouldn't do and what's at stake if I disobey my parents. It did also help my relationship with them to be respectful because there was a time when I was young were I was very disrespectful and their beatings did shape me to be better.

I don't think I'm gonna have kids so I haven't deeply thought about it.
I don't like the idea though, I feel like there are better ways of disciplining children that should hit the mainstream.... parents need to stop being narcissistic and pick up a book about parenting or something lol

Yo nah I agree. That phrase is older than the folk music of Nigeria, I'm sure of it. My Mum said the same to me + "I'll give you something to cry about"

Do you not think this style of rhetoric, while commonplace, is lowkey psychologically damaging, whether intended or not?

Does Selah's account border "bullying"?

I know we both got our ass whooped, but now we're grown and have to look retrospectively. Was it too much?

I'm not actively like yeah I'm gonna hit them, I'll try other methods but I won't be afraid to. I never got hit unless I deserved it, they done it out of love so I wouldn't end up in a terrible position later on in life.

I was never scared of them, they were loving but I knew if I stepped out of line there would be consequences.

Every parent got their own parenting methods. Some beat their kids, some don't. Some kids are fine with their punishment just being grounded and/or having things taken from them. Some kids don't learn from that and continue to act up. Some kids learn immediately from getting their ass beat and they correct their behavior.

S***, I already know it's alot of people who weren't beat by their parents growing up and they still went on to act like little a******s but be tryna say "I never beat my kids and I turned out fine!" Vice versa for people who were beat growing up.

The bottom line is every child is different and different forms of punishment are required. All imma say there's an extremely clear difference between physical abuse and physical discipline. And I think lotta y'all need to learn the difference and stop tryna act like parents are just out here man handling their kids whenever however, and shut the f*** up and mind your business. Stop tryna tell people how to raise kids that aren't yours.

Not every child who is beat by their parents grows up to beat their kids once they are parents.

Yeah, I feel like more discussions about child discipline should be had more by our generation because it seems like kids growing up now are more out of pocket because of lack of alternative methods of discipline

Nice way for this chick to get her name out there tho LOL

Spot on

I agree, there are other methods, probably as or more effective, our parents simply didn't try. They did what they know. So I guess we, as a generation, will be the ones to stop the cycle of hitting our kids. I think that's what Selah is promoting

In an increasingly digital world, taking your kid's phone or network privilege must be so effective. I dunno

these type of discussions are pointless yall like 18 on here

Fam. I have no idea, I'm not invested in child ass whoopings because a lot of people I've heard of came out fine...

Child abuse is different imo and usely those victims sort things out with or without their abusers, as adults.... I have no agency over what happens to them but I hope they it works out and doesn't hinder them from living a fruitful and healthy life.

That's fair enough. I've heard more stories on the benefits of beatings than the negatives, but I fear our reaction to Selah's account is the reason why: people are too scared to say this was traumatic for them

We should have conversations like this because once you have a kid, you would want to know what to do when your child is acting up