FOREVA

1y

I‘ma give you some real advice cause I’ve been in a similar situation before @op When I was 19 I moved to a small ass town where I didn’t know anyone for uni. I had 2 chinese roommates and due to my severe depression and anxiety I never talked to them. On weekends I would drive home just like you to meet friends and family. I thought I didn’t need any contacts in my new city, but that’s false. You should definitely go out there and try to kick it with some people. I didn’t learn that they were pretty chill guys until the last week of our semester cuz all of us decided to move out at the same time. From that point on we played cod and smoked every evening lol. I regret not talking to them sooner, but sometimes you have to experience s*** like this to get over yourself. They told me they simply thought I didn’t like them because I didn’t try to speak to them at all. Maybe that’s the case for you as well. If not, f*** em. What I learned from this is I have to live by myself at all times, because home to me is a safe haven where I recharge and don’t have to interact with anyone if I don’t want to. Wish you the best bro

Oak

1y

Thank you for writing that.

Back in high school a similar situation happened, I didn’t talk as much as I should have and I ended up overlooking so many cool people who tried building relationships with me.

Sometimes I can get too caught up in my head and think situations are worse than they really are.!

Oak

1y

Maybe I should just pop up at their function and invite myself

C O Z Y x

1y

So like be clear, is it definite animosity/they be moving weird? Or is it just you havent put yourself out there with them and you're assuming it's animosity.

🤔🤔 because if they really sending bad vibes your way i wouldnt wanna kick it with them

goodkid mAAdposter

1y

Your roommates don't f*** with you and think that your vibe is off and that your presence would throw off the girls that they tryna to pipe.

You gotta start talking to them so they think you're cool. That's one thing, then if you want them to invite you to parties you gotta prove to them that you got game or you can bring the attractive energy to girls yourself. You gotta be useful to them rather than a nuisance.

Mountain Dude

1y

You're getting cucked by your roommates.

lewinskysdress

1y

plot twist: op is a 10 and is oozing charisma and his roommates are insecure about him taking their girls

BVL

1y

If I was the roommates, I’d be friendly and caring to the new person. I’d invite OP to any party. If op says “oh no thanks I’m ok” type of s***, I’d reply with “ok that’s cool. You’re free to join us anytime”

Idk why y’all defending the roommates?

BRAVE

1y

There’s something missing from the story cause this would be most people. They’re going out of their way to be cruel which is weird. The immediate way to be is how you’re saying you would be in your post

hoodbya1r

1y

OP hit me in messages

I graduated from UVa and times prolly changed (a lot I'm about to hit my 10 year), but off your threads I catch from time to time I feel like you're making UVa/college a lot harder than it is fam. Overthinking it -- just hit me and let's connect lol

Oak

1y

So at my university (UVA) I recently moved out of my singular dorm and into an apartment with two others dudes because it was cheaper.The only thing we share is the kitchen but we have separate rooms and bathrooms.

Each weekend I normally go home to visit my mom because it gets lonely on grounds without any to talk to. Recently, my roommates have been giving me “heads up” before they bring guests over, however, they continue to ask me when I’m leaving to go home.

For example, I was warming up some food and my roommate asked me at approximately what time was I leaving and kept peaking out his bedroom door to see if I left yet.

When they bring people over during the week I sit in my room but it feels awkward asf. They be having movie night with girls and they don’t even ask if I want to watch too. I’m not upset or anything it’s just I now feel obligated to leave every weekend so they can throw their weekly parties.

Oak

1y

Messaged you