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@op

Do yourself a favor and go enroll at a major hot yoga studio. Will be great for stress and for being more comfortable being around fine girls. Once you surround yourself with enough bad b****es for a long enough time you won’t be intimidated by them anymore.

Maybe instead of "getting girls" you can be friends with a girl and then maybe date them.

i agree with all of that, but it doesn’t “heal“ introversion. it’s simply a trait. it is not something to be healed. i am an introvert and i have an active social life. however, after certain social interactions my energy will be drained and to fill it up again i need time by myself —> introversion

Honestly only to the movies occasionally

this and picking up a new hobby seem like the way to go fr

how many times a day would you ideally like to hang out with friends? or a gf or whatever

or is it more about living situation

not to sound stupid but what kind of hobbies do you recommend

Gotta beat those uncomfortable moments in ice breaking @op

the 9 yrs length is funny

i feel you though

i haven't 'gone out' to socialize in yrs but i meet people everywhere i go

If you like working out I’d take up climbing and bouldering

It’s very social

hmm not sure if these count but i like to run, i go to concerts/festivals like once every couple months (i.e. hard summer), i code in my free time here and there, i also frequently do solo hikes/walks. i like basketball and i love listening to and finding new music

i do think i need more hobbies but i don't really have any good ideas

living situation i still live at home with my mom (no dad). been nice paying no rent. because i haven't had any girls in my life in a while i haven't felt that much pressure to move out, but recently my mindset has changed, and i'll probably be moved out within the next year. i've had enough money to live on my own for a couple years now fwiw

dating apps are too soul sucking. i don't really get matches. which is wierd, because when i was ~21 i was doing really well on tinder and bumble. idk why but as i've gotten older, the matches barely come, and when they do they don't really go far. sometimes i post my profile on reddit for feedback to really optimize s*** but still not much luck...

Fincher has struggled with fringe groups of violent and antisocial young men idolizing characters such as Tyler Durden, with the auteur filmmaker plainly saying
“It’s impossible for me to imagine that people don’t understand that Tyler Durden is a negative influence… I don’t know how to respond and I don’t know how to help them.”

idk what is ideal but i know right now it's definitely way too little. during the week i basically don't interact with anyone at all. i usually go to a library or coffee shop during working hours but my only interactions with people are through a screen. i'd love to have a girl to text during the day here and there and hang out with 1 or 2 times a week

tbh i'm not trying to come off as needy regarding girls, but i haven't had a thing with a girl in a while. it lowkey takes a toll on you

No way this is what you think after people have been entertaining your bullshit and trying to offer you genuine advice on here for years

Be alone without feeling lonely

This is great advice when you're younger, but it gets harder and harder to maintain the older you get.

This s*** rarely works. If you're not making your intentions clear from the go, you'll be the one she vents to or asks advice about guys she's dating

Just kicking it with friends doesn't hit the same at our age, we start desiring romantic intimacy with a special person. Friends are nice but they will never be able to fill that role.

why don't you move to palestine

Drawing, board games, video game meet ups, making music etc

for once kinda with maxx on this, but moreso in that ppl dont use the word right. you can be introverted, but it doesn't mean you are shy or have social anxiety, it just means that you get drained being around people and need more time alone to recoup that energy. like I'm definitely introverted but I can also be the life of the party and I really enjoy being around my friends, I just get tired in a way that my wife who is extroverted doesn't.

anyway @op I always recommend people pick up hobbies that put them around other people in groups, stuff like social dancing, rock climbing, table gaming, disc golf, etc.

also making the change from wishing your friends invited you to do stuff more often to being that friend that invites all the friends together can be a huge thing. I try and have a lil dinner party every couple weeks at my place and that's been a nice change

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Maybe if you're in high school. The average KTT user is approaching 30. By now you (1) should be comfortable having women friends (2) have clear communications with any romantic interests and (3) not delude yourself so easily.

It's not supposed to "work". This isn't advice about how to bag women. Grow up