Ghoma

1y

Nope it's more like salsa or country dancing

gnarlynasty

1y

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Best advice for op really is that, there is no advice. You just have to tackle your problem head on, go out there and seek what you want. You gotta play with the hand you've been dealt, any long winded advice is automatically convoluted cause, your the only one who really knows how you feel at the end of the day.

Gotta realize, most people that get women, do what it takes to get em. At the same time, maybe they don't, maybe all this stuff falls into their lap, they could have something you just don't have. Then again, they could be just like you, maybe even worse, they just have an "IT" factor going for them.

So many possibilities, but at the end of the day, don't worry about whats possible, if you want something as bad as you think you want it op, give yourself a real opportunity to get it. Be the best version of you, whatever that means. Personally for your sake, FIND OUT WHAT IT MEANS!

fakerickhoodie

1y

solid ass advice

gnarlynasty

1y

I tried lol, I think thats the main problem alot of shy/introverted people face. They have an idea of what they think works, and they want to emulate what works. When in fact, there are no rules, you just need to go out there, be the best you and punch anxiety/fear in its face.

gnarlynasty

1y

Best advice for op really is that, there is no advice. You just have to tackle your problem head on, go out there and seek what you want. You gotta play with the hand you've been dealt, any long winded advice is automatically convoluted cause, your the only one who really knows how you feel at the end of the day.

Gotta realize, most people that get women, do what it takes to get em. At the same time, maybe they don't, maybe all this stuff falls into their lap, they could have something you just don't have. Then again, they could be just like you, maybe even worse, they just have an "IT" factor going for them.

So many possibilities, but at the end of the day, don't worry about whats possible, if you want something as bad as you think you want it op, give yourself a real opportunity to get it. Be the best version of you, whatever that means. Personally for your sake, FIND OUT WHAT IT MEANS!

FOREVA

1y

introverts recharge by being alone, extroverts recharge by being around people

Water Giver

1y

I already touched on that and nor did i say it doeslol and its still more than most adults and it literally shows he is not a "recluse" he boxed himself in.

He is literally going out every week with others and by himself.

That is not reclusive and even some ways not even introvert.

Its a complete contradiction and shows it is not as bad as he makes it out for himself.

Hence the "get out of your own head and get out of your own way" sentiments.

I even touched on family which something he doesnt mention at all.

And also lol a romantic relationship isnt a cure all either - there are many people in relationships that are also unhappy and "lonely" as well.

There is no magic cure and looking for one is also self destructive.

But the facts are he does have people in his life and he does go out and do things - so he is definitely not a reclusive and at the very least his loneliness isnt as bad as he made himself believe.

He sounds like he is his own worst enemy that is preventing himself from putting his self out there more and also exagerrating his situations/self in his head which then becomes a repeated self cycle of a stagnation loop.

Hence my worst case scenario and putting your 50 out there.

I literally touched on everything and gave advice. Im just also being realistic & breaking the situation down with the parts I was given. He is far from a recluse and he is not lonely in the literal sense. If you want more, you actually have opportunities to put yourself out there. He is not rockbottom and actually has chances, which is a good thing. But og course as I said - nothing will happen if you literally do nothing. Which is also true in general.

No one will magically fill any role. Its you that will. And this op in particular seems to have the means (again, agood thing), he just has to act on it and put himself more out there. Easier said than done no s***, but at least its a viable & hopeful course of action when he is ready & able.

emo genghis khan

1y

in the same situation
it's over for us

Zezima

1y

Bro you sound like you rather make excuses than progress. Pick one, hopefully you pick progress cause excuses will get you nowhere I promise.

Source: I made excuses and didn’t make any good moves in life till like 26 cause of it.