Mar 3·1 reply
ChillaYou need to sit down and ask yourself if you even want a long term serious relationship or if you just want to jump from one 10/10 model to the next. If you just want the latter then you are not ready for the former.
I only needed to date 1 girl with a pretty face and s***ty personality to learn that I need more than just a nice exterior when it comes to a serious relationship. She needs to have certain qualities in her personality. Her face and body cannot excuse or substitute her behavior and personality forever.
I don’t care how fine a woman is if she’s gonna be a headache, if she isn’t humble, if she doesn’t respect me, if she isn’t loving and caring and grateful. At the end of the day it will not be worth it. You need more substance, at least if you’re looking for something long term.
You need a woman who actually, genuinely cares for you and has the qualities of a wife and a mother. One that selflessly fills you up, not one that drains you. One that you can pour into because you genuinely love and appreciate her and you want to cultivate her qualities and bring out the best in her. She waters you and you water her and you watch each other grow together. You work for the wellbeing of each other. You selflessly love and serve each other.
A lot of beautiful 10/10 women have been able to rely on their looks to get around town and thus they haven’t had to develop a personality with the type of qualities that you actually want and value in a woman. Their beauty grants them lots of attention and opportunities before they even open their mouths, so they don’t have the same need to develop their personality.
this the one op
Mar 3·1 reply
JbreezyondeckLooking at how you talk about your friends SOs leads me to believe you may need to work on yourself a bit
was gonna say lol
yeah nigga ugly to YOU
- Mar 3·2 replies
also wild how "attractive"means auto bad and "ugly" means auto good
how bout you go to a different circle of people or a different ocean of fish lmao
so much to unpack here
Mar 3·4 repliesStop dating over looks and start dating women who you would be comfortable to raise your kids.
- Mar 3·1 replyJbreezyondeck
Looking at how you talk about your friends SOs leads me to believe you may need to work on yourself a bit
But this. I couldn’t figure out how to say it nicely.
Mar 3·2 repliesFor someone I've been lowkey rooting for on here for decade plus, kinda bummed out to read this. Hope it works out OP!
There's some useful advice itt.
Liking or wanting only 10/10s is not a unique desire. Everybody wants 10s. I think you're putting too much stock into you having high standards.
You're also not going to get any happiness out of chasing things and people to satiate your ego. I think that's what you mean when you're saying you only desire a certain type of women. I reckon it's typically one that, in your circle, will validate your image the most.
You also shouldn't give up on people easily and treat them like a checklist to go through. Usually the tendency to search flaws and reject possibilities quickly is in fact a problem not of looking for the right person but of avoiding love
Mar 3·1 replybro was genuinely coming here looking for constructive help so I pray he gets it rather than just taking the people joking on him.
I think I said something genuinely constructive even if it might be uh... blunt ,
//
Mar 3·1 replyJbreezyondeckLooking at how you talk about your friends SOs leads me to believe you may need to work on yourself a bit
Yup, most people's problems (OP's included) can be solved by chilling the f*** out and slowing down, life shouldn't be that serious
- Mar 3·2 repliesWASHINGTON
For someone I've been lowkey rooting for on here for decade plus, kinda bummed out to read this. Hope it works out OP!
There's some useful advice itt.
Liking or wanting only 10/10s is not a unique desire. Everybody wants 10s. I think you're putting too much stock into you having high standards.
You're also not going to get any happiness out of chasing things and people to satiate your ego. I think that's what you mean when you're saying you only desire a certain type of women. I reckon it's typically one that, in your circle, will validate your image the most.
You also shouldn't give up on people easily and treat them like a checklist to go through. Usually the tendency to search flaws and reject possibilities quickly is in fact a problem not of looking for the right person but of avoiding love
Last sentence is spot on, it's pure projection, if it's not their looks he has a problem with it's their "red flags" or "baggage", which are something literally everyone has in some shape or from from virtue of living their life
- Mar 3·1 reply
There are no wise words to stop you from being a self sabotaging loser, the first step is you have to stop taking yourself so seriously cause no one is really that important and special
- Mar 3·3 repliesyesac
Last sentence is spot on, it's pure projection, if it's not their looks he has a problem with it's their "red flags" or "baggage", which are something literally everyone has in some shape or from from virtue of living their life
its also the space he's obviously in
"10/10 models that have done billboards and etc."
there are "10/10"girls that exist outside that line of work, its your space
no s*** a hyper competitive and vain market such as modeling will attract mostly the s***tiest people because theyre the only ones willing to deal with that mess and chaos - or if he;s only going after rich snobs that never had to do anything that are "10/10"
while a "10/10" being a doctor/teacher/secretary etc. are less likely to be "shitty" - or the "10/10"that had fight their way to go to college etc.
its not so much "pretty = bad & ugly = good", its moreso the environment and space you are finding these women in
theres pretty women everywhere in all facets - its your own fault for settling for the s***ty ones
its like the losers crying about how no women want them but theyre ONLY focused on Miami women that are p***stars and e-celebs lmao when there is so much more out there
his whole op statement is so stupid and comes off like a nigga that hasnt lived much or talked to many people
- Mar 3Water Giver
also wild how "attractive"means auto bad and "ugly" means auto good
how bout you go to a different circle of people or a different ocean of fish lmao
so much to unpack here
hence my whole thing about start with changing your circle or "ocean" ^
lil ufo 🛸Mar 3·3 repliesmy pops told me an important thing when I was a kid
physical beauty fades away, only what's inside your heart and brain remains
it's just this simple
- Mar 3·1 replyWater Giver
its also the space he's obviously in
"10/10 models that have done billboards and etc."
there are "10/10"girls that exist outside that line of work, its your space
no s*** a hyper competitive and vain market such as modeling will attract mostly the s***tiest people because theyre the only ones willing to deal with that mess and chaos - or if he;s only going after rich snobs that never had to do anything that are "10/10"
while a "10/10" being a doctor/teacher/secretary etc. are less likely to be "shitty" - or the "10/10"that had fight their way to go to college etc.
its not so much "pretty = bad & ugly = good", its moreso the environment and space you are finding these women in
theres pretty women everywhere in all facets - its your own fault for settling for the s***ty ones
its like the losers crying about how no women want them but theyre ONLY focused on Miami women that are p***stars and e-celebs lmao when there is so much more out there
his whole op statement is so stupid and comes off like a nigga that hasnt lived much or talked to many people
I agree with the sentiment of broadening your horizons, but to me it sounds like OP specifically is someone that values status so he wouldn't be compatible with a "10/10" girl that lives in the suburbs and has a "boring" life (office job, go to the gym, eat dinner, watch a TV show and have an early night)
There are sooooo many of those kinds of girls and they deserve to be with people that want the same things, if OP is convinced he wants to work in fashion and be seen as "cool" and "eclectic" (which means his girlfriend would be too) then he has to grow up and realise everyone is gonna have baggage according to someone else's standards, you have to love people in spite of that because No one is perfect!
Mar 3·1 replyI feel you @op feel like I be dealing with this too
I work in fashion too lol dealing with models and designers all day sure doesn’t help 😅
- Mar 3·1 replyWater Giver
its also the space he's obviously in
"10/10 models that have done billboards and etc."
there are "10/10"girls that exist outside that line of work, its your space
no s*** a hyper competitive and vain market such as modeling will attract mostly the s***tiest people because theyre the only ones willing to deal with that mess and chaos - or if he;s only going after rich snobs that never had to do anything that are "10/10"
while a "10/10" being a doctor/teacher/secretary etc. are less likely to be "shitty" - or the "10/10"that had fight their way to go to college etc.
its not so much "pretty = bad & ugly = good", its moreso the environment and space you are finding these women in
theres pretty women everywhere in all facets - its your own fault for settling for the s***ty ones
its like the losers crying about how no women want them but theyre ONLY focused on Miami women that are p***stars and e-celebs lmao when there is so much more out there
his whole op statement is so stupid and comes off like a nigga that hasnt lived much or talked to many people
its this established and understood level of shallowness in the fashion industry that make me kinda understand where he coming from to a degree //
Mar 3·2 replies
TheRocket64I'm gonna crash out reading this because the last girl I fumbled was a 10/10 fashion designer who I literally met at bible study and went to church every sunday
damn i’ve never seen anyone im really attracted to at bible study i gotta branch out more
Mar 3·2 repliesI need pics of these girls OP. U might think they a 10 but that doesn't mean they objectively are
Mar 3·1 replyClassiquedamn i’ve never seen anyone im really attracted to at bible study i gotta branch out more
it's a looooooot of attractive people in church
but also, they at church.
take that as you wanna
- Mar 3
Also people on the internet throw out terms like "awful people" all the time
Being w someone is a choice regardless of their flaws or annoying things they do. A relationship only lasts as long until someone says they're out; details be damned
Mar 3·1 replyTheRocket64I'm not saying it as a diss just as a objective fact and making an extreme comparison
Their partners are genuinely amazing and wonderful people on the inside but objectively they're physically unattractive
Also my close friends and I are always brutally honest with each other and even they would admit that their partners are "less than average looking"
you a d***head
- Mar 3lil ufo
my pops told me an important thing when I was a kid
physical beauty fades away, only what's inside your heart and brain remains
it's just this simple
i seen some grannies that say otherwise
- Mar 3·1 replyTheRocket64
I know for a fact that one if them is probably lowkey unhappy because he also used to be shallow just like I am until his wife doubled in size but my other friend is the least superficial person I know
I feel like me being shallow is the problem because I pursue people purely based on their looks as opposed to their personality
I don't attract awful people I just go after hot (awful) people and only realize they're awful when I get to know them
there's such thing as hot people that aren't awful tho.
you just prioritize looks before the 1st date cause you can definitely tell within the 1st few mins of a 1st date how awful someone can be (e.g. oversharing some problematic s***) but because you already simping you just ignore the red flags.
went on a 1st date once with a conventionally attractive sista and in the 1st like 20 mins she mentions about her 6 year old kid that if she ever saw him act gay he would beat it out of him
had me like
also she was 110% an alcoholic lol. never linked again.
- Mar 3
rather lateThen who cares fam
You’re living a life most guys dream of, if what you’re saying is true.Try to enjoy the moment and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Not feeling sorry for myself at all I love life it’s just that I feel as though I have such a niche preference that it’s preventing me from moving on to the next chapter in life and I want to reprogram my lifestyle before I blink and am 50 years old like Leonardo DiCaprio and the only friend unmarried still
- Mar 3·1 replyrather late
Bro you’re not ugly but also not earth shattering hot
So i’d just feel very lucky that you are in a position where you’re dating models and having fun.Or try dating outside of the modeling world, seems like a vapid industry full of social climbers
Yea I definitely consider myself lucky I think also being successful in my field is a gift and a curse because I never know if someone is just trying to network with me or if it’s a genuine connection
Also the problem that I’ve found is that post-college outside of the fashion industry it’s super hard to naturally meet new people especially considering I don’t drink so I rarely go to bars