Yep.

Don’t wanna do it again.

This is highkey placebo based on the severe ups and downs of the relationship and the only consistency being sex.

whats your experience? they switch up and become abusive?

I was talking to a girl who had ptsd if that counts

From being kidnapped when she was a teen

But unfortunately she ended up being too flakey - which isnt anything against her I get it but I cant be half in, if thats the case then im all out

NPD. Huge keep

North Polar Disorder?

Their minds are f***ed, they’re just good at hiding it for long enough to pull you in. They mostly prey upon vulnerable guys who may not recognize how broken they are.

They move fast. They’ll be trying to tie themself to your lie very quickly. Moving in with you, talking about getting married, trying to buy a pet with you, etc. Once they feel like they’ve sunken their claws into you and you aren’t going anywhere you start to see who they really are.

Excessive neediness, constant drama in their life (which is somehow never their fault), insane emotional ups & downs, massively overreacting to any perceived slights.

They’ll constantly go hot and cold on you, they’ll weaponize their emotions and keep you continually stressed and confused, they’ll completely break you down and squeeze the life out of you if you let them. Your best bet is cutting off contact and getting as far from them as possible.

can say with 99% confidence it was the latter lol

Fun
S***good
Goes bad usually tho

Bro, holy s***
You just described this jawn I used to know down to a T.

And another thing: zero respect for your boundaries.

Yeah that’s a big one I missed. You try to establish any kind of boundary with them and they’ll lose their s*** and start gaslighting the hell out of you. They’ll make you feel like a villain just for standing up for yourself.

hmm i feel u on that forreal. Kinda weird this b**** i used to mess with was like that shed sing to me baby me and give me the silent treatment and leave me asking what did i do wrong...You right on that prey on vulnerable guys cause i feel like they test you to see what u gon put up with but i dip real early

but its kinda wild cause a personality disorder or mental illness isnt supposed to make you a bad person though, but it seems that many of the personality traits yall are raising are common especially the "its never their fault" issue. But many of them in my opinion want to change and are trying so i wont be so harsh

No but I talked to a bpd chick for a bit, tried to get with her but she gave me no attention. Then a few months later after being with my current gf for a bit she would hit me up at 2 am talking about how me and her would be such a good couple. Had to block her quick.

my ex was similarly hurtful but i know deep down she was a nice person who’d been hurt so badly in the past.

ktt users with avoidant personality disorder tap in

Once had a girl I was talking to (like saw each other 4 or 5 times in 2 weeks) completely have a potentially psychotic/BPD breakdown/episode after being totally normal for those 2 weeks. I got a call out of nowhere and I could tell something had changed/snapped. Took me another 2 weeks to just get her to stop talking to me without making myself look like a villain for her to pin her negative emotions on. She would text me in the middle of the night long, rambling stream of consciousness texts and would curse me out when I wouldn't reply (only to usually apologize less than an hour later). I told her I couldn't handle the mental load of dating her among all the other things I was juggling (which was true), and she said she understood and I quickly removed her from everything.

She tried to add me back literal months later, and I declined the requests. She may be better, I hope she got help, but, even if she is better, I don't think she'd blame me for not wanting to talk to her again.

I barely knew this person. We talked for less than a month. But she half-stalked me and threatened me for not replying to her nonsense. It felt inescapable and I felt like anything I said could be the thing to make her snap - or worse, snap against me. Legit terrified me.

Made me rethink who I'd ever try to date for the rest of my life and who I'd ever let know where I live. There weren't tons of signs, but there were enough for me to make note of and to never dabble in that s*** ever again.

did she tell u what she was dealin with like which illness was it?
how old was she?

Mid-twenties. She didn't say what she was dealing with. Didn't even know there was something until she called me and was clearly....lost. She just said she had called her doctor or something, and they had recommended that she go to the ER, which she didn't do.

Sounds like she went off meds from what I could tell.

wow man glad u out of it

was with a girl for 5 years and had to end it because she had recurring manic depressive episodes

she went through something 2 years in (usually triggered by a traumatic even ie: car accident, drama) and shut down, became unlike herself, sort of depressive and really let it affect her and our relationship, she usually becomes VERY religious in and/or after these states

We got back and moved in together and everything..
then some other drama happened and she again was irreversibly affected by it, became depressive, manic, wouldn't sleep, would be aggressive, would drive recklessly, speak in tongues, threatening me, poured water on me, didn't let me sleep correctly cuz of all of this.

thats when I decided, I wasn't gonna go through this over and over again, no way to create stability. I knew she would get better but I also knew it was a matter of time before the next episode/manic state/cycle