WeezyFthugga

1y

was with a girl for 5 years and had to end it because she had recurring manic depressive episodes

she went through something 2 years in (usually triggered by a traumatic even ie: car accident, drama) and shut down, became unlike herself, sort of depressive and really let it affect her and our relationship, she usually becomes VERY religious in and/or after these states

We got back and moved in together and everything..
then some other drama happened and she again was irreversibly affected by it, became depressive, manic, wouldn't sleep, would be aggressive, would drive recklessly, speak in tongues, threatening me, poured water on me, didn't let me sleep correctly cuz of all of this.

thats when I decided, I wasn't gonna go through this over and over again, no way to create stability. I knew she would get better but I also knew it was a matter of time before the next episode/manic state/cycle

BIGGWAVE

1y

wow man so sorry u went thru that
when u say irreversable is she like permanently screwed in the head or did she make some improvements?

yungcartier

1y

Worst relationship I’ve been in was with someone with BPD

WeezyFthugga

1y

maybe irreversible is the wrong word

she just like would start off by getting really quiet and introverted, sleeping a lot, then she would like find refuge in religion and so would go extreme on that front,

she also usually got into exercising alot because all she would want to do is be outside and run/jog (which I don't blame her actually, when i'm overwhelmed with anxiety and s***, walking outside is the best) but she would take it too extreme because of the extreme anxiety/depression that would overtake her

she isn't like messed up forever, after like 3/4 months she would get back to normal like nothing ever happened

but i just noticed it was a constant cycle and I needed more stability, she's doing great now, had a baby in July, looks happy im happy for her

yungcartier

1y

Worst relationship I’ve been in was with someone with BPD

yungcartier

1y

Worst relationship I’ve been in was with someone with BPD

dxrkknght

1y

hooked up with a shawty who baker act’d herself, f***ed 3x then dipped

slick wished i stayed for more cuz her head gane was out this world

insertcoolnamehere

1y

This is highkey placebo based on the severe ups and downs of the relationship and the only consistency being sex.

insertcoolnamehere

1y

This is highkey placebo based on the severe ups and downs of the relationship and the only consistency being sex.

russianbot23

1y

Their minds are f***ed, they’re just good at hiding it for long enough to pull you in. They mostly prey upon vulnerable guys who may not recognize how broken they are.

They move fast. They’ll be trying to tie themself to your lie very quickly. Moving in with you, talking about getting married, trying to buy a pet with you, etc. Once they feel like they’ve sunken their claws into you and you aren’t going anywhere you start to see who they really are.

Excessive neediness, constant drama in their life (which is somehow never their fault), insane emotional ups & downs, massively overreacting to any perceived slights.

They’ll constantly go hot and cold on you, they’ll weaponize their emotions and keep you continually stressed and confused, they’ll completely break you down and squeeze the life out of you if you let them. Your best bet is cutting off contact and getting as far from them as possible.