It sounds like that bday situation was an appropriate time to deliver a wake up call to your friend. Afterwards, you just leave it on him to put his relations in order

Friends fake af anyway who cares

Tell him he’s p**** whipped

Ppl actually have friends past thr age 18, tf???

Ain’t normal to be prioritizing your girls friends over your own though. Sounds like she’s controlling his life

Happy wife happy life

I agree except for your early reasoning that it’s not healthy bc the relationship can end.

I would say, it’s not healthy in general to let meaningful friendships erode bc you are spending all of your time w one significant person. Even if the relationship lasts forever, to just invest in one person and take your previous relations for granted is a misguided perspective.

Also, if one person in a relationship does this more than the other—it will potentially harm the relationship once the honeymoon phase ends when the other person begins to feel/recognize that their partner relies on them for all their attention and free time. I think you say, more or less the same thing, with “any girl will eventually get tired of being the centre of any man’s life”

trash saying ngl

It ain’t healthy for men to prioritize a woman’s feelings over their own

Yeah as you guys get older you’ll feel less pressed about it, everyone starts to do their own thing and you see them less & less but don’t take it personal unless there’s actual drama lol

Yeah I cant really relate to this thread. I’m 26 now and if this happened to my buddy I’d honestly be whatever about it

Even if he wasn't likely to attend, people still want the invite (as someone who's been w my gf for almost 10 years and bails on my friends all the time)

At the same time I acknowledge the invites will be less frequent the more often I bail

P**** makes fellas go from to

It's normal for a dude to prioritize their partner. Reality is he is thinking of spending his life with her in ways (marriage, homeownership, raising children, etc) that friends just can't match. I am sure you will do the same when you have a long term partner.

You don't have to completely abandon your friends when you are in a relationship. However always understand that the person who is giving your friend that turbo twin fist gawk gawk sloppy 5000 is gonna be on a higher tier of importance than you are. It's not anything malicious.

Ain’t nothing more empowering as a man than being able to reject p**** tbh

Yeah I had one friend for years now up until I think a few years ago that every now and then would hit us up expressing how we aren’t close enough/only seem like we only hang out at parties etc and never just kicked it like we did when we was all roommates

Like I get it but it made me roll my eyes cause I don’t expect us to hang on a weekly basis when everyone has gfs, jobs and even kids now lol

Yeah that’s just life man some get some don’t

My current circle is dope because once a month or so someone just suggests dinner/lunch/brekky and we just link that way and that’s that. Low maintenance. We all understand we’re busy as adults with partners and family

That's not your boyfriend anymore

Think that's just him tagging along...not actually making plans with them. Happens all the time in relationships especially when you get older

This s*** happened to like most of my friends part of life and there's nothing you can do. Other than get a girl yourself you can vibe with

good for him

Only niggas that get no b****es feel a type of way about their friends spending more time with their partners than you

i get plenty of b****es big bro