CloudyDreams

2y

Bros either a push over or he never liked y’all that much ngl

left4good

2y

villainizing the girl and she barely has to do with story is crazy

CloudyDreams

2y

that post ain't even villainize her. She certainly could be the one forcing him to see his friends less though.

aaron xx

2y

My mate (lets just call him John) started dating his GF (lets just call her Jill) over 2 years now and everything has been fine, i'm happy for the guy and love their relationship together. I get along with Jill and have expressed to her that I love them together. But recently, I have been feeling like John pours so much more of his effort and time into Jill to the detriment of his friends. It is pretty agreed upon by our friends and people that know John that he has built his entire life around this GF. He posts her constantly and spend every all his free time with her - which is completely fine although i am starting to feel like he has been neglecting his own friends. It feels like it's too difficult to make plans with him now because we all know his response (he will be spending time with Jill). I also think he doesn't even know his friendships are fading. He is blissfully in-love with Jill. We all love John but we can't help but feel the way we do.

Another thing to note is that John wasn't invited to one of our friends bday parties and was kinda butt hurt about it. Although this friend isn't part of our close circle, she is still someone we're friends with. From my perspective, I think John can't expect to invited to parities with friends he doesn't put any time into. Am I wrong for thinking this? John also spends so much more time with Jill's friends and will happily show up for plans with them and Jill but it feels like he treats his friends like they're a bit disposable? I don't think John can expect to be invited to something with someone if he hasn't put the effort in to nurture that friendship. Is this wrong?

now my question is, am i misplaced in feeling the way I do? John and I used to hang out pretty regularly and I love the guy but I can't remember the last time we spent time together. every time I see him it's always in the context of his GF. There are other couples in our friend group and they all seem to balance their romantic and platonic relationships. Do I bring this up to John or am I being too sensitive about this?

tldr: friend is spending so much time with gf his friendship are fading - do i tell him this?

left4good

2y

i never said the post villainized her, i said you did. ur adding ur own information to this story and putting it on her when he could very well just prefer spending time with her

XxRAWRxX xD

2y

This is life OP

She’s the one sucking and f***ing him

When he thinks about his future it’s likely growing with her, getting married, having kids all that especially a few years into the relationship

He’s not picturing y’all sitting around playing video games and drinking when he’s 35

Priorities, don’t take it personal

XxRAWRxX xD

2y

This is life OP

She’s the one sucking and f***ing him

When he thinks about his future it’s likely growing with her, getting married, having kids all that especially a few years into the relationship

He’s not picturing y’all sitting around playing video games and drinking when he’s 35

Priorities, don’t take it personal

Zokkon

2y

It's over bro. Wifey time will generally start to take up more and more of someones recreational time especially once you hit mid to late twenties, it comes out in different levels for everyone obviously

In my group one of my friends got married and even tho he makes time for us sometimes he'll just say "lol wife needs me" at the last second and we obviously can't say anything to that cause it'll just sound salty. The worst part is one of our friends lives at a different timezone so sometimes he'll stay up to do s*** with us but get abandoned last minute

Speak your peace just to let it be known IMO but don't linger on it. Tell him at the core of it, he can't expect to be invited on a whim if he never shows up anymore, try not to put the blame on his GF tho because at the end of the day its his choice