Idk, why does she get to hang out with her friends but he can’t?

y’all some s***ty friends goddamn. gaslighting the f*** out of @op

whew.. you say a word with this one. no lies told

Nigga the whole post is gaslighting John for spending more time with his girl? F*** is you on

LMAOOO

gospel

Bros either a push over or he never liked y’all that much ngl

“We all love John but we can't help but feel the way we do“

Have you expressed this to him? Otherwise you’re also not being accountable and therefore gaslighting and shifting blame when a few words and understanding could avoid this entire post

i honestly just think he's a huge simp

which isn't bad at all we should all (in some extent) be simps for our partners

game is game

We should be but we should also not be dumb and ignore when our partners aren’t treating us the way we should be treated

It’s also just possible she’s not forcing him to not see his friends but that he just doesn’t know how to balance a relationship and his friends

i haven't to be honest

i think me posting this thread is kinda just like early feelings of how i feel. i don't think it's that big of a deal atm just wanted to get people's opinions fr

nah y’all trying to make him feel like a b**** simply for wanting to spend time w his friend. @op clearly said they invite him to do s*** but he turns them down to be w his girl

now if his girl dumps him or something tragic happens to @op, John is gonna be feeling like a dumbass for neglecting that friendship. that is, if he even cared to begin with

It's not that he can't. He chooses not to because he is choosing to prioritise his girl than them. You can call him a douche for that but idk it's just part of growing up. I've got friends who are in relationships and some who are married that I don't see for like 3 or 4 months at times whereas other friends that I see once a week. I understand people are different and we still are all cool

Meh, that’s his choice but he can’t be mad if he stops getting invited to s***

Exactly and I've said that to OP. Just tell him it's his own fault if he feels that he's not being invited to s***

this site is so f***ing stupid man people just baiting for likes in these threads

We put to much energy on these situations that if we take a step back, we can realize have nothing to do with us and the other person may just literally be busy or trying to make the most of the time they have with the person they talk to every day.

It doesn’t mean I don’t like you or don’t want to spend time with you. There’s only so many hours in a day. Doesn’t mean I have to all of a sudden stop inviting you, that’s emotional

It’s unfair to expect something out of someone and you haven’t even expressed your feelings to that person, which he also clearly said. This is all assumptions that can be cleared away with a simple conversation

This is normal

Yeah idk why people are in here saying this lol I’m almost 29 and @op said his people are 23-24 so that honestly makes sense. This is really some young relationship type s*** that will not end well and he’ll regret it sooner or later. You cannot make your relationship the end all be all cause sooner or later, you’ll have nothing to talk about since 95% of your time is with that person. I’m blessed to have all my homies be in relationships where we still communicate and hangout with each other while balancing our relationships, work, hobbies etc. You should have your own life while maintaining a good relationship.

There’s nothing wrong with prioritizing your relationship over your friends but there’s balance. Dude hanging with his GF’s friends over his is type weird to me

i hear you. but i feel like the point that few people here are acknowledging is that while friendships go through phases and life often gets in the way, there’s a difference between that and flat-out taking friends/loved ones for granted

i have a close friend that i go months without speaking to but every time we DO speak, we on the phone for like 4 hours like no time has passed. that’s just our dynamic. but if either one of us were reaching out to the other and getting blown off or no response on a consistent basis, that’s when you enter the “taken for granted” territory. it’s not hard to be like “sorry bro, i cant hang out bc i’m gonna be w my girl but next week/month/whenever, i’ll be free”

i just believe in showing people love while they’re still here to receive it but obviously, we all aren’t like that. OP can communicate with John and explain how he feels instead of falling back. me personally, i just fall back because i’ve tried addressing this issue with a friend in the past only for the issue to still continue but that’s just me lol

@op if you really fw John, tell him how you feel. and if it still continues, just focus on your other friends

who you telling man? lol but in threads about mental health, it’s always check on your friends b, twitter is the same way

we gotta get it together

Yes, 100% treat others how you want to be treated and if you don’t get the treatment you think you should get, then that’s that. We just can’t have expectations for anyone other than ourselves, that saves you from so much hurt.

Have a similar dynamic you’re talking about and another where we spoke every day then one day it just stopped. After hitting bro up consistently I just came out and said it like bro what you on rn? He told me he was going thru a deep depression.

I told him his feeling matter before anything, but effective communication is effective communication and it takes mere seconds. He told me he couldn’t even mentally bring himself to respond with an “I’m busy” this is the way some people are and it is up to us to maintain that relationship if we can look past these moments if we genuinely care about someone and how they process things or balance their time.

It is not an affront on us nor should it harbor resentment from us if we truly care about that person. Without communication, all relationships are bound to fail

Are all of his friends in relationships or single? Friends who are in relationships behave differently from single friends. The level of bonding and recipocral love you are craving, he's already getting from his gf so he does not feel the need to spend as much time with you as you with him. Understand that your friendship dynamic has changed and meet him on his level, he wants more meaningful, deeper things out of events now, not just dudebro things and that's why he might not spend as much time hanging out anymore. His priorities have changed based on what he values more and he might have found it harder to relate to what you single dudes want to spend time on or talk about all day. But, just because he has less time doesn't mean he should be excluded from major events like a birthday party like especially those things that are meaningful and make it easier for him to plan for and invite his gf to, he's most likely to attend those.

20s are a big transition in how you will spend time with your friends as they are getting hitched, get new jobs and get kids, my advice is adapt because it's not getting any easier. I'm happy for him, is he thinking he might start thinking about popping the question and moving to the next level.

op tryn to smash the girl that didn't invite john to the party meanwhile said girl is mad lusting over john read btwn the lines